In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms. This week's term: safety behaviours Safety is supposed to be a good thing, isn't it? Maybe, but sometimes the mind will start shouting at you to do things that don't actually keep you safe and instead just make you anxious, and … Continue reading What is… a safety behaviour?
The emerging blogger series is aimed at community building through giving mental health bloggers who are early in their blogging evolution the opportunity to have their work seen by a wider audience. It's also a way to introduce you as a reader to some newer members of our community. This week, we have two emerging … Continue reading Emerging Blogger Series: Christie
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term: Cognitive behavioural therapy – CBT for pain While initially the idea of a psychological treatment for a physical problem may sound a bit odd at first, it makes more sense when you consider how inextricably connected mind and … Continue reading What is… CBT for pain
Yes, that's right, I'm guilty of ghosting. Ghosting is not a nice thing to do to someone, but are some forms of ghosting worse than others? I would like to propose two different types of ghosting: offensive ghosting, which serves to actively reject another person, and defensive ghosting, which is done for the purpose of … Continue reading I admit it – I’m a ghoster
I was browsing the web for interesting therapy materials, when I came across the worksheets for Acceptance & Commitment Therapy for Anxiety Disorders on the website of one of the authors, Dr. John Forsyth. I've never done ACT, but I've done a lot of reading about it, and it makes a lot of sense to … Continue reading Let’s get suppressing
We've all got our toolbox of coping skills to draw on when things start to get difficult. It's usually not quite as simple as that, though. My toolbox has multiple different compartments, and multiple different keys. When I'm well, I've got the master key and I have access to all the different compartments with all … Continue reading When events overwhelm coping skills
In psychiatry, magical thinking refers to the idea that there is a causal relationship between one's thoughts and the outside world; basically that thinking something makes it so. I tend to combine magical thinking with avoidance to produce a thought pattern of "I won't think about it and therefore it's no longer real." It's entirely … Continue reading Pass the magical thinking hat
Sometimes avoidance is adaptive. If we see a mama bear and her cubs, we know we need to steer clear. This is when our caveman brain is programmed to kick into fight or flight mode, and we probably never would have moved far beyond the caves without it. But a lot of avoidance is maladaptive, … Continue reading To avoid or not to avoid, that is the question
This post is sort of a follow-up to my post yesterday on goal-setting, in which I talked about the difficulty I have in setting goals for the future. The past includes good stuff in the more distant past and a lot of not so good stuff in the more recent past. I used to be … Continue reading Living in the present… or just avoidance?
I think I used to be fairly resilient, although it's hard to remember because it's been so long. I am most definitely not resilient anymore. My weekend was not great, even though I tried to be mindful of self-care and include good stuff like journalling and meditating. My mood was low, and I felt alone, … Continue reading So much for healthy coping strategies