Book reviews, Mental health

Book Review: Show Your Anxiety Who’s Boss

Book cover: Show Your Anxiety Who's Boss by Joel Minden
Show Your Anxiety Who’s Boss by Joel Minden provides strategies drawn from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to help manage anxiety.  CBT is an evidence-based treatment, so while the strategies won’t necessarily for everyone, they are legit, unlike many of the other self-help books floating around.

The approach is broken down into three major steps: predictions, not anxious fictions; take action, demand satisfaction; and accept and redirect.  The book is divided into three sections based on these steps.

The book starts off with information about some of the important elements of anxiety.  The author explains that anxiety involves overestimating the degree of threat and underlying our ability to cope.  Two key problematic responses to this are avoidance and emotion-focused coping (things that ease the anxiety temporarily but actually end up feeding into it).

You may be familiar with the term cognitive distortions, but for the most part that isn’t used in this book.  Instead, the author uses the term anxious fictions to describe distorted predictions about the future.  The three key anxious fictions identified are probability overestimation, catastrophizing, and inadequate coping.

The author points out that anxiety is a problem of over-control, and I found it interesting the way he explained it. While anxiety can feel totally out of control, it’s associated with a low ability to tolerate uncertainty, as well as attempts to mentally get control over things that are totally out of our control.

The second section of the book is focused on pushing through avoidance for the purpose of living a satisfying life by engaging in meaningful activities.  The book uses the mantra “do it anyway.”  The author acknowledges, as he does a number of times throughout the book, that actually doing this isn’t going to be easy.

Various activities are suggested, including identifying manageable first steps and conducting behavioural experiments to generate evidence.  There are plenty of questions scattered throughout the book to stimulate thinking.  Scenarios are given to illustrate some of the major concepts covered.

Each chapter ends with an explanation of how the material covered can help and what’s next, as well as bullet point summaries of the key points.  The final chapter gives a very good quick and easy point form summary of the book’s major concepts.  The second to last chapter is written Q&A style to address questions you might have about what was covered.

This book was quite good.  There’s wasn’t anything that stood out enough for me to say it was great, but if you’re looking for a CBT book for anxiety, this one is well worth considering.


Show Your Anxiety Who’s Boss is available on Amazon.

I received a reviewer copy of this book from NetGalley.


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book cover: Managing the Depression Puzzle: Putting the Pieces Together by Ashley L. Peterson


My newest book, Managing the Depression Puzzle, takes a holistic, everything up to and including the kitchen sink look at how to put together the pieces of your unique depression puzzle.  It’s available on Amazon and other online retailers, as well as the MH@H Store.



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12 thoughts on “Book Review: Show Your Anxiety Who’s Boss”

  1. It is good to hear ‘avoidance’ again to make me aware that I do that quite often. I need to step up sometimes and face the not so rational fears. Sounds like a hands on approach (the book) when you’re in need of helpful steps.

      1. Well I’m sorry to have to tell you but today my neighbors (them!) had an loud argument (again!) and one of the two pounced (!!) on my door. I did hide under the covers (for real!) and now it’s quiet in the building.
        Ok my coping skills are not what they need to be but I did manage to survive 🙂

  2. Sounds like an interesting book! Good review! I’m still reading your depression book, and it’s fascinating so far!! I hope to read more later today!

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