Identity and relationships, Mental health

The “Toxic Person” Label and Mental Illness

The internet is full of talk about toxic people. Searching for "toxic person" yields 295 million hits on Google. That's a whole lotta toxicity. If someone is abusive, you deserve to a) be free from them, and b) call them toxic or whatever else you might choose. But those 295 million online hits aren't all… Continue reading The “Toxic Person” Label and Mental Illness

Good vibes only written in watercolours, with images of crying faces
Mental health

“Should” You Avoid Negative People?

Along the lines of "choose happiness," you may have seen the message "good vibes only," or something along the lines of getting rid of negative people from your life. But where do people who aren't well fit into this? To be clear, I'm not talking about people who are negative about you.  If someone is… Continue reading “Should” You Avoid Negative People?

Happiness is a choice? Have you heard of mental illness?
Mental health

Happiness Is a Choice, My Ass

This was originally posted in 2018 in the early months of this blog.  I've decided to pull a few posts out of the archives where they were gathering dust, give them an overhaul, and bring them back to life.  It's a bit of an experiment, and here's the first one. "Happiness is a choice."  It's… Continue reading Happiness Is a Choice, My Ass

Mental health

You Don’t Need to Be Positive

Toxic positivity is essentially the idea that happy and positive is the only right way to be, and therefore, people need to cheer up, look on the bright side, think positive, choose happiness, allow good vibes only, etc., etc. It also shows up in the "it could be worse" guilt trip mentality.  You're not in… Continue reading You Don’t Need to Be Positive

Book cover: Bright-sided by Barbara Ehrenreich
Book reviews

Book Review: Bright-Sided

Bright-Sided: How Positive Thinking is Undermining America by Barbara Ehrenreich was recommended by a fellow writer on Medium.com who, like me, has chronic treatment-resistant depression. The book looks at how expectations of positive thinking, with no room for anything else, are actually harming our society.  The author doesn't use the term toxic positivity, but she's talking about the… Continue reading Book Review: Bright-Sided

feeling names wheel
Mental health

Identifying Emotions

Wikipedia What exactly are emotions?  Well, there's no easy answer to that; it depends on who you ask and what their theoretical perspective is.   But regardless of how we define them, how do we describe them?  That can be easier said than done.  There's even a psychiatric term, alexithymia, for difficulty identifying and articulating… Continue reading Identifying Emotions