The book looks at how expectations of positive thinking, with no room for anything else, are actually harming our society. The author doesn’t use the term toxic positivity, but she’s talking about the same kind of thing.
The first area of focus is breast cancer. The author writes about how mainstream culture not only normalizes breast cancer, but even tries to turn it into a positive thing. She observes that “in the seamless world of breast cancer culture… cheerfulness is required, dissent a kind of treason.”She also points out how problematic it is that within breast cancer culture, survival is treated as though it depends primarily on one’s attitude, adding that “the sugar-coating of cancer can exact a dreadful cost.”
Another chapter focuses on workplace culture, where “the penalty of non-conformity is going up, from the possibility of job loss and failure to social shunning and complete isolation.”
I had to laugh at the author’s take on the popularity of the law of attraction within the coaching profession; she certainly doesn’t pull any punches. “What attracts the coaching profession to these mystical powers? Well, there’s not much else for them to impart to their coachees.” And she’s certainly speaking my language when she picks apart the way quantum physics is co-opted into pseudoscience by “New Age thinkers and the philosophically opportunistic generally.”
The book covers the development of positive thought movement in the U.S., from Calvinism to New Thought to Norman Vincent Peale’s 1952 book The Power of Positive Thinking to positive psychology as developed by Martin Seligman. While this was all relevant, I found it less interesting than other parts of the book.
Other topics covered including the push for positivity and optimism in the face of massive corporate downsizing, megachurches and “prosperity preachers”, and the baseless optimism that in part contributed to the collapse of the housing bubble in the U.S.
The author explains that positive and negative thinking aren’t the only options. She suggests a better alternative is “to try to get outside of ourselves and see things ‘as they are’, or as uncoloured as possible by our own feelings and fantasies, to understand that the world is full of both danger and opportunity.”
She adds that “critical thinking is inherently skeptical,” and “realism – to the point of defensive pessimism – is a prerequisite not only for human survival but for all animal species.”
I quite enjoyed Bright-Sided, and I think the author just might be my long-lost soul sister. There’s no need to try to sugar-coat the world; reality is far more interesting.
Bright-Sided is available on Amazon.
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