Are you an unsafe person, or is that just an unhelpful label? - skull and crossbones diagram
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Are You an Unsafe Person?

This post was inspired by something i saw on Pinterest about safe vs. unsafe people, but it's along the same lines as what I've written before about the toxic person label. Is that kind of whole-person labelling actually useful? https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/618541330074396290/sent/?invite_code=f51df0af6c36491ba932da4de7aeeb6d&sender=846958411080851028&sfo=1 When I came across the image above on Pinterest, my first reaction was that there… Continue reading Are You an Unsafe Person?

What is... insights into psychology series
Insights into Psychology

What Is… a Heuristic

In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms.  This week's term is heuristic. Heuristics (from the Greek "to discover") are mental rules of thumb or shortcuts that allow our brains to process information and arrive at conclusions more quickly. A post not long ago covered philosophical razors, which are… Continue reading What Is… a Heuristic

What is... moralization
Insights into Psychology

What Is… Moralization

In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms.  This week's term is moralization. This topic came to mind recently while reading a post on another blog. The author was making pornography a moral issue, and I wanted to do some exploring around that process of moralizing. The term moralization… Continue reading What Is… Moralization

honesty word cloud
Insights into Psychology

Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Honesty?

Honesty is the best policy, right? I say no, no, no, no. And let’s add on one more no, just for good measure. I would also like to propose two kinds of “honesty”, only one of which I think actually involves honesty. First, you’ve got things that can be answered or described objectively. Let's say… Continue reading Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Honesty?

Are there actually toxic people, or is that an overused label? Graphic of a toxic waste barrel
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The “Toxic Person” Label and Mental Illness

The internet is full of talk about toxic people. Searching for "toxic person" yields 295 million hits on Google. That's a whole lotta toxicity. If someone is abusive, you deserve to a) be free from them, and b) call them toxic or whatever else you might choose. But those 295 million online hits aren't all… Continue reading The “Toxic Person” Label and Mental Illness

Am I a bad person? graphic of a disappointed face
Identity & Self

Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?

"Am I a bad person?" It seems to be a fairly common question. Searching for that question on Google yields 263 million hits. I've also seen it raised in the blogosphere. Regardless of what the answer may or may not seem to be, though, is it a valid and/or useful question? What exactly is a… Continue reading Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?

Book cover: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
MH@H Book Reviews

Book Review: Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg describes a form of compassionate communication. The foreword is by Deepak Chopra, which wasn't a great start for me, as New Age really isn't my thing. Rosenberg and I seem to look at the world very differently, so this is less book review and more… Continue reading Book Review: Nonviolent Communication

How judgmental are you? - image of finger pointing
Insights into Psychology

Are You Judgmental?

I think we judge.  We all judge, meaning we're all judgmental, even if we don't like to admit it. And that's okay—or is it? I generally think of myself as pretty open-minded.  I think people should embrace whatever viewpoints they want to embrace, as long as they're not channelling those views into harmful actions against… Continue reading Are You Judgmental?

The Should Monster: a purple monster with wings weighing you down with "shoulds"
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Shoulding Ourselves to Death

I saw a post on the topic of shoulding recently on another blogger's site and wanted to continue the conversation. The word should can have several meanings, but the most relevant here is the one from Google dictionary, which Grounding Growth also referenced. "used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions… Continue reading Shoulding Ourselves to Death

What is... insights into psychology series
Insights into Psychology

What Is… Judgementality?

In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms.  This week's term is judgementality. [As a quick spelling geek comment, judgementality is spelled with an e after the g, while judgmental is more commonly spelled without an e.] According to Psychology Today, being judgmental involves getting satisfaction out of making… Continue reading What Is… Judgementality?