In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term is the shame compass. I first heard of the shame compass quite recently in a post by Zoe of Serious Mental Health. It was first described in 1992 by psychiatrist Donald Nathanson, and it identifies four different types… Continue reading What Is… the Shame Compass
I've thought about this before, but the idea for this post came from a quote Suzette Benjamin shared on her blog: We already have everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement…all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are.Pema Chödrön I'm all in on this quote.… Continue reading Self-Improvement — Or How About Good Enough?
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term is self-verification theory. Self-verification theory comes from social psychology, and it says that we want other people to see us the way we see ourselves. That might seem self-obvious, but what's interesting is that this applies even when… Continue reading What Is… Self-Verification Theory
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself is written by Kristin Neff, a prominent researcher in the area of self-compassion. It includes research findings, a variety of exercises with room to complete them in the book, and stories from the author's personal experience. The author draws on Buddhist teachings, and she writes that:… Continue reading Book Review: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
Recently I was commenting on a post about self-esteem by Caz of Mental Health 360º and decided it was worth expanding on in a post of my own. I've always has good self-esteem, and this is what I've identified as the basic building blocks that support it. Inherent worth of humanity This is probably more… Continue reading My Self-Esteem Building Blocks
"Am I a bad person?" It seems to be a fairly common question. Searching for that question on Google yields 263 million hits. I've also seen it raised in the blogosphere. Regardless of what the answer may or may not seem to be, though, is it a valid and/or useful question? What exactly is a… Continue reading Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term is imposter syndrome. I've seen a number of people write about this lately, so I don't remember anyone specific to mention for inspiring this post. The term imposter syndrome was first used in a 1978 paper in the… Continue reading What Is… Imposter Syndrome
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term is self-efficacy. Essentially, self-efficacy refers to our belief in our ability to get shit done. Or, for a more textbook definition, there's this quote from psychologist Alfred Bandura: "Perceived self-efficacy refers to belief in one’s agentive capabilities, that… Continue reading What Is… Self-Efficacy
Self-esteem isn't a static concept, nor is it all-or-nothing, although it may sometimes feel like it. To use perhaps not the greatest analogy, it's like a treehouse that you build. Sometimes external events can knock out rungs to the ladder up to the treehouse, or sometimes they cause more significant structural damage. External factors can… Continue reading The Self-Esteem Treehouse
“Don’t compare yourself to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.” - Regina Brett The internet makes it very difficult not to compare ourselves to other people. There they are, in their Instagram-perfect photos and their seemingly amazing lives. Perhaps the "nice" thing to do would be to feel good for… Continue reading The Mental Health Effects of Comparison to Others