The ways in which we communicate have changed a lot over the years, so let's do a little meander back before we talk about the present. When I was a kid, we had a rotary dial telephone hanging on the wall. When I was too young to remember, we were on a party line, meaning… Continue reading How Do You Communicate?
Honesty is the best policy, right? I say no, no, no, no. And let’s add on one more no, just for good measure. I would also like to propose two kinds of “honesty”, only one of which I think actually involves honesty. First, you’ve got things that can be answered or described objectively. Let's say… Continue reading Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Honesty?
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg describes a form of compassionate communication. The foreword is by Deepak Chopra, which wasn't a great start for me, as New Age really isn't my thing. Rosenberg and I seem to look at the world very differently, so this is less book review and more… Continue reading Book Review: Nonviolent Communication
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term is personal boundaries. Kind of like our skin acts as a boundary to separate the insides of our bodies from the world, personal boundaries allow us to maintain separation in our interactions with other people. Types of boundaries… Continue reading What Is… Personal Boundaries
I got thinking about this recently because my best friend is a normalizer, and it really doesn't feel very good sometimes. But there are other times when normalizing aspects of mental illness can be helpful. So what's the difference? The invalidating way A little while back, I told my best friend that I was heading… Continue reading Normalizing Mental Illness Symptoms: the Good & the Bad Way
F*ck No is written by Sarah Knight, who is also the author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck. This book covers a variety of situations, including social, work, partner, and family, and helps you to get more comfortable saying no to others' demands. The book includes a variety of fun diagrams in… Continue reading Book Review: F*ck No: How to Stop Saying Yes
Skinny Hobbit from Growing Into Myself recently did a post that contained this Youtube video. The video is about supporting someone who is grieving, but it's a powerful message about validation in general, which is what inspired this post. Many of us have chosen to blog because there are difficult experiences that we're dealing with. … Continue reading The Power of Validation
The Jackass Whisperer by Scott and Alison Stratten is a lighthearted look at how to deal with the many forms of jackass you'll encounter – including yourself. And these encounters are inevitable; "When you put a lot of humans into one space, Jackasses happen. It's just science." The book caught my eye because Brené Brown… Continue reading Book Review: The Jackass Whisperer
Photo by Frame Harirak on Unsplash I think we've probably all felt the urge at one point or another to give advice. We see the situation someone is in, and can't help but think if they only did X then things would be so much better for them. Chances are most of us have also… Continue reading Is It Appropriate to Give Unsolicited Advice?
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms. This week's term is motivational interviewing. Motivational interviewing (MI) is a therapeutic communication approach. It's often used in the field of addictions, but it's got some very useful tidbits that are more broadly applicable to motivation for any sort of change.… Continue reading What Is… Motivational Interviewing