Honesty is the best policy, right? I say no, no, no, no. And let’s add on one more no, just for good measure. I would also like to propose two kinds of “honesty”, only one of which I think actually involves honesty. First, you’ve got things that can be answered or described objectively. Let's say… Continue reading Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Honesty?
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg describes a form of compassionate communication. The foreword is by Deepak Chopra, which wasn't a great start for me, as New Age really isn't my thing. Rosenberg and I seem to look at the world very differently, so this is less book review and more… Continue reading Book Review: Nonviolent Communication
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychology-related terms. This week's term is personal boundaries. Kind of like our skin acts as a boundary to separate the insides of our bodies from the world, personal boundaries allow us to maintain separation in our interactions with other people. Types of boundaries… Continue reading What Is… Personal Boundaries
I got thinking about this recently because my best friend is a normalizer, and it really doesn't feel very good sometimes. But there are other times when normalizing aspects of mental illness can be helpful. So what's the difference? The invalidating way A little while back, I told my best friend that I was heading… Continue reading Normalizing Mental Illness Symptoms – the Good Way and the Bad Way
F*ck No is written by Sarah Knight, who is also the author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck. This book covers a variety of situations, including social, work, partner, and family, and helps you to get more comfortable saying no to others' demands. The book includes a variety of fun diagrams in… Continue reading Book Review: F*ck No: How to Stop Saying Yes
The Jackass Whisperer by Scott and Alison Stratten is a lighthearted look at how to deal with the many forms of jackass you'll encounter – including yourself. And these encounters are inevitable; "When you put a lot of humans into one space, Jackasses happen. It's just science." The book caught my eye because Brené Brown… Continue reading Book Review: The Jackass Whisperer
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms. This week's term is motivational interviewing. Motivational interviewing (MI) is a therapeutic communication approach. It's often used in the field of addictions, but it's got some very useful tidbits that are more broadly applicable to motivation for any sort of change.… Continue reading What Is… Motivational Interviewing
Rawpixel on Pixabay The ways we can connect with others have changed a great deal since I was a kid in the 80s. Technology is light years ahead of where it used to be, which makes connecting easier in some ways, but mental illness likes to get in the way and put up roadblocks. Back… Continue reading How Do We Connect with Others?
In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms. This week's term is assertiveness. Wikipedia explains that assertiveness can be seen as falling in between passive communication styles and aggressive styles. Assertiveness training is a type of behavioural therapy developed in the 1960s that includes increasing awareness of one's own… Continue reading What Is… Assertiveness
desertrose7 on Pixabay One of the (many) things I'm working on is checking myself on my thought gremlins – depression-related misinterpretations of things happening around me. Not stopping the misinterpretations (I'm nowhere close to being ready for that yet), but noticing them for what they are. This past weekend I was exchanging emails with someone… Continue reading Reining in the Thought Gremlins