Our Minds & Our Selves

Procrastination vs. Energy Budgeting: What’s the Difference?

September 12, 2022 September 12, 2022 / , , / 33 Comments

Energy budgeting and procrastination both involve putting tasks off until later, but one is healthy and the other isn’t. So what’s the difference? That’s what we’ll explore in this post. What is procrastination? I like Wikipedia‘s definition of procrastination – it is “the action of unnecessarily and voluntarily delaying or postponing something despite knowing that …

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Impostor Syndrome, Masking, Inadequacy, & Social Belonging

September 6, 2022 September 12, 2022 / / 33 Comments

Impostor syndrome, masking, social belonging, and inadequacy – that’s a lot of things crammed into one title! The comments on a post I did a while back (Do You Experience Impostor Syndrome?) got me wondering where the lines are between impostor syndrome and some of the things that it overlaps with. I don’t have answers, …

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hands holding a note saying "think positive"

Toxic Positivity: What It Is and Why It’s Not Helpful

July 26, 2022 October 7, 2022 / , , / 72 Comments

Positivity can be a good thing, but toxic positivity not so much. So, what’s the difference? I’d say that positivity is about finding the good that exists despite the bad, while toxic positivity is pretending that the bad can’t/doesn’t exist or trying not to allow it to exist. The element of invalidation is another thing …

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Setting expectations: Is it better to aim high and often not succeed or aim low and often succeed?

Is it Better to Have High or Low Expectations?

June 27, 2022 September 12, 2022 / , , / 43 Comments

When it comes to expectations, my preference is to aim low and then be happy when I meet or exceed them. I know that approach doesn’t work for everyone, so I wanted to explore when it may or may not work. I think it might help to break the expectation/doing/result process into steps. This process …

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How Affectionate Are You?

May 17, 2022 August 24, 2022 / , / 62 Comments

Google offers this definition for affectionate: “readily feeling or showing fondness or tenderness.” Some people are more affectionate than others, and not everyone shows they care in the same ways. I thought it might be fun to chat about our own affectionateness tendencies. I’m an affectionate little bean, particularly in writing. In person, I’m a …

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