Our Minds & Our Selves

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Are You Prone to Boredom?

Boredom—it’s something we probably all experience at some time or another, but some people are more prone to it than others. Let’s start off our boredom discussion with a definition. While there is no single agreed-upon definition, I like this one: Boredom represents a negative experience commonly arising in situations deemed deficient in meaning, interest, …

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Reacting to Hurt: A Decision Tool

If you’re anything like me, when someone close to you does something that feels hurtful, there’s a strong urge (sometimes a very strong urge) to react in a way that’s driven by that hurt. That reaction isn’t necessarily appropriate or useful, though, and sometimes it can involve some pretty dumb shit. I came up with …

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Setting goals as endpoints vs. identifying valued directions to head in

Setting Goals vs. Identifying Valued Directions

Goal-setting is a popular thing; plug it into Google search, and there are billions of hits. But is goal-setting always the best approach? Maybe identifying and heading in valued directions can be a good alternative some of the time, especially if something like mental illness is making the whole goals thing difficult. Valued directions in …

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Do You Love Yourself? A Look at Self-Love

Em of From Famine to Feast wrote recently about why self-love is a good call, whereas my friends at WeDIDit wrote about feeling relief that self-love wasn’t required to move forward. Around the same time, Andy of Eden in Babylon was talking about the clusterfuck entailed in the word love and the many different things …

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Faith, Attribution, and Cognitive Dissonance

This post flows from a few different things that other bloggers have been talking about lately. I’ll refer specifically to a couple of posts about faith on Tisha B’Av, a Jewish day of mourning, but this also ties into what some other people have been talking about with regards to subjective vs. objective reality. This …

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Loneliness, Social Anxiety, and Introversion–Extroversion

I started the draft for this post quite a while back when I wrote about the COVID pandemic being better suited to introverts than extroverts. I thought I’d treat to tease apart the constructs of loneliness, social anxiety, and introversion/extroversion, similar to a post I did quite some time ago about introversion, shyness, and social …

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How Much Control Do You Have Over Your Mind?

A while back, a post about choosing to be positive came up in my WP Reader feed. The blogger mentioned that “our mind is something we do and can have control over.” While they weren’t making reference to mental illness at all, I don’t think control over one’s own mind is quite so cut and …

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