An identity milestone: the end of my career as a nurse - cartoon graphic of a nurse
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A Depression & Identity Milestone: No Longer a Nurse

I mentioned in a recent weekend wrap-up that this was coming, and now it's here. As of today, I’m officially no longer a nurse, which is a pretty massive identity milestone for me. This isn't an abrupt transition by any means. I've known this was coming for a while now, and I’ve already been through… Continue reading A Depression & Identity Milestone: No Longer a Nurse

the poem Not by Erin Hanson
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You’re Not Defined By What You’re Not

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2s9myr7obVA Ginnie Sophia did this lovely video based on the poem. You can find Erin Hanson on her Instagram and Facebook. Here's the text rather than graphic version of Not by Erin Hanson. You are not your age, Nor the size of clothes you wear, You are not a weight, Or the colour of your… Continue reading You’re Not Defined By What You’re Not

perceived vs. objective reality: what's real and what's subjective? - graphic of superimposed lenses
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Perceived vs. Objective Reality

Our minds play all kinds of tricks on us. We've got all kinds of cognitive biases that influence what we do with our thoughts, and our brains do interesting things with what they pick up through our senses. There's a philosophical argument as to whether or not there is a truly objective reality, but for… Continue reading Perceived vs. Objective Reality

Am I a bad person? Or maybe that's the wrong question
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Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?

"Am I a bad person?" It seems to be a fairly common question. Searching for that question on Google yields 263 million hits. I've also seen it raised in the blogosphere. Regardless of what the answer may or may not seem to be, though, is it a valid and/or useful question? What exactly is a… Continue reading Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?

The should monster: the problem with "I should" - cartoon of a purple monster
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The Should Monster: The Problem with “I Should”

Who is the Should Monster? It's that voice inside your head telling you what you should do to live up to expectations—your own expectations of yourself, as well as what you think that others (and the world in general) expect of you. Shoulds can consume a lot of mental energy, so let's chat about them.… Continue reading The Should Monster: The Problem with “I Should”

Happiness is not a choice – group of emojis with happy face marked unavailable
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Happiness Is Not a Choice

"Happiness is a choice." It's a message that you probably come across fairly often. While it's probably meant to be motivational and positive most of the time, if you start to poke at it a bit, it has some fundamental flaws. I believe that happiness is not a choice, at least not when something like… Continue reading Happiness Is Not a Choice

How do you feel about your own company? Is it a good or a bad place?
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How Do You Feel About Your Own Company?

I find it fascinating the range of comfort levels people have with being alone. It's pretty much guaranteed that we will all need to spend at least some time in our own company, yet there are many, many ways in which people experience this. While I know that for some people alone time is quite… Continue reading How Do You Feel About Your Own Company?

The problem with perfect is that it doesn't exist
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The Problem With Perfect… Is That It Doesn’t Exist

Being perfect is an ideal that some people may strive for or feel that they are required to attain, but how realistic is the notion of perfection? One of the biggest problems with perfect is that a lot of things in this world are subjective. When it comes to things that are subjective, everyone has… Continue reading The Problem With Perfect… Is That It Doesn’t Exist

A question of identity: What makes you, you?
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Exploring Identity: What Makes You, You?

We all have a variety of different characteristics and things floating around in our heads. But when you dig down deep to the core, what is it that makes you, you? I think a major part of the foundation of who we are is the sum of our entire life experiences. No one else has had… Continue reading Exploring Identity: What Makes You, You?

You don't need to be positive - there's room for other emotions too
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You Don’t Need to Be Positive

Toxic positivity is essentially the idea that happy and positive is the only right way to be, and therefore, people need to cheer up, look on the bright side, think positive, choose happiness, allow good vibes only, etc. It also shows up in the "it could be worse" guilt trip mentality. You're not in ICU… Continue reading You Don’t Need to Be Positive