Identity and relationships

How Common is Introversion?

How common is introversion?  Figures from an American study.

Introversion and extroversion are personality traits lying at opposite ends of a spectrum.  Some people fit with one extreme or another, but many people fall somewhere in the middle.

Introversion & extroversion – what’s the difference?

Much of the difference between the two comes down to energy – where someone tends to focus it, and how they recharge it.  Introverts tend to focus more of their energy and interest inward, and they recharge their batteries with alone time.  Extroverts are more outwardly focused, and being around others energizes them.  For extroverts, small talk may just part and parcel of creating social connections, whereas for introverts it can be exhausting.

What are the stats?

PositivePyschology.com cites some statistics related to introversion.  A few studies have shown an approximately 50:50 split between introverts and extroverts.  A 2014 study of over 3000 people used a 5-point scale to represent the introvert-extrovert spectrum.  A small percentage of respondents identified as highly extroverted or highly introverted, and most fell somewhere in the middle, as shown below. 


Extroverted (1)234Introverted (5)
12%21%41%15%5%
Data from Pew Research Center

One study found a higher proportion of librarians were introverted, and lawyers are also more likely to be introversion. Likely, other career areas also have a tendency to draw more of one or the other.

Overall, though, it looks like introversion is very common.

Except we live in a society that, at least for the most part, expects extroverted behaviour.

A mismatch to social expectations

I think that mismatch between personality and expected behaviour can cause a lot of dissonance in people who are quite introverted.  The external pressure to be social fights with the inner drive to have alone time, and somehow a behavioural compromise must be found.

Social pressure to perform as expected can be pretty strong, so there are probably a lot of introverts roaming around in the world behaving as though they’re extroverts.  While this makes the extroverted people satisfied, other introverts may feel like they’re in the minority, because everyone else appears to be extroverted.

I think it would be nice if we shifted towards a more balanced social model, where it’s acceptable to behave in ways consistent with extroversion or introversion.  It would be nice for it to be socially acceptable to decline invitations to certain types of gatherings.  Why should extroverts get all the social rule-making powers when there are just as many introverts?

Personally, I embrace introversion.  The older I’ve gotten, the less inclined I am to pretend otherwise.  And small talk?  No thank you.  Give me guinea pigs over humans any day.

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36 thoughts on “How Common is Introversion?”

  1. First I was an introvert, then I really enjoyed company and many extroverted things to do. Since living on my own I became more introvert, enjoying all the me-time and me-space. Since falling ill I suffer from too much alone-time. But the advice given to me is most frequently to ‘go out’, to ‘move’ and so on. I don’t feel comfortable doing that. It’s a very thin line than can change over time. I would love not te be ‘expected’ to do all those ‘extraverted’ things no matter how I feel.

  2. Those are my thoughts put into words for every time i have to be somewhere i absolutely do not want to be. It is very difficult to explain the whole idea of being around too many people as draining rather than charging when it is always portrayed otherwise.

  3. I have mingled a bit more than I used to with people or friends, but I still like my own time and space a lot.
    I make sure I get my own time, otherwise I will really be craving it and feeling really tired and possibly grustrated if I don’t.
    I have to have me time, to re-charge.

  4. My father suppressed my personality my therapist informed me.

    For 50 plus years I was an introvert until I improved then an extrovert popped out

    Who knew

  5. I loved that photo too! Hilarious! I have no complaints as far as being an introvert. As far as I’m concerned, I hold the keys to deciding whether or not I want to be a part of a gathering. I never allow someone to make those decisions for me or guilt me into doing something I would feel uncomfortable doing.
    Excelletn post, Ashley! 🤗

  6. I can’t help but wonder, though, if one major drawback to being extroverted would be that you can’t always find a party or gathering to recharge. For us introverts, we always have our home base, right? But what if you’re an extrovert, and you need that social charge, but no one’s partying? (These have been the lost deep thoughts of Meg.) I don’t know why I’m remembering this now, but in college, this guy in my class wrote a paper called, “Getting to the Party.” Suddenly that now seems relevant!

  7. This is a great post. Although I wouldn’t describe myself as introverted, I think I am often extroverted but sometimes I want to recharge on my own. You do well to give credit and understand those who have to work hard at being extroverted. They do it, but it is draining at times. I’ve become a lot more aware of this as I’ve gotten older, too.

  8. Thank you for this! I’m not sure when it happened but I’m definitely more introverted than I used to be. I’ve always been happy in my own company but also had days where I felt like I had to be with people and that rarely happens now.
    I spent my birthday week last month with so many people and it took such a long time to recover afterwards. I always wonder how people can be around others for so long.

      1. I was so done by the end of it, I just wanted alone time before going back to work. Everyone looks at me weird when I say I enjoy night shifts but I get to work alone and don’t have to interact with too many people, it’s perfect for me!

  9. Hmmm. So interesting. It makes me wonder if introversion and extroversion is a product of our evolution as a species, or if these traits have been ingrained in us from the beginning. I’m not sure why this question is even in my stream of consciousness. Maybe because I recently listened to a podcast that explored how differently we might move through life without language (words with assigned meanings). Love your insight, Ashley, and I’m enjoying reading others’ thoughts.

  10. I’m in the middle too. I used to be much more extrovert but getting bullied and people who hurt me made me realize that being alone can be so peaceful. I don’t have to fake anything and can just be myself. I also love to be around good people such as my friends ❤️

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