In the last few years, I’ve experienced a fair bit of trauma. In terms of how I conceptualize trauma responses, what matters the most is how the mind/brain processes the trauma. That processing can range from adaptive to disordered (i.e. PTSD). While I don’t have PTSD, I still haven’t fully processed the trauma-related memories. I was reminded of this when I got triggered a couple of weeks ago, and all of that emotion came rushing back. I realized that I’ve been engaging in some serious avoidance, and that means there’s a lot of shit that hasn’t been dealt with.
In some of the continuing education I’ve done on PTSD for professional reasons, one of the things that interested me was cognitive processing therapy, which is an adaptation of cognitive behavioural therapy. One of the elements of this type of therapy is creating a trauma account, which accomplishes a couple of things. Creating a trauma narrative helps the brain to change how it encodes emotionally and sensory-charged trauma memories, and writing, re-writing, reading, and re-reading also acts as a type of exposure therapy. So I decided I was going to go ahead with creating a trauma account.
But then I kept putting it off. I didn’t want to do it. I recognized, though, that this avoidance was exactly why I needed to do it in the first place. So I put it on my calendar for yesterday morning, knowing I would be able to go to yoga class afterward to relax. I created a little safety zone for myself: soothing aromatherapy, cup of tea, wrapped in a cozy blanket, and with my favourite stuffed animal plus my guinea pig who loves her mama the most tucked in at my side. And I started writing.
I wrote for 45 minutes. It was hard, and it was tiring. I tried to observe how my body was responding: the tension, the stomach ache, the shallow breathing. But I did it. I’ve still got a lot left to do, but I’m glad I’ve started the process. What stands out to me is that I’m now able to name the emotions that before were too raw and twisted in thick snarls to tease apart. Something that came up repeatedly was “I feel worthless. More than worthless.” I hadn’t realized that was such an issue.
I’m going to stick with this approach of scheduling and making a safety zone. I’m going to keep writing until it’s all down on paper, and then I’m going to highlight and footnote until it makes sense, and then hopefully I’ll feel more ready to move on and escape from the prison of the past.
Note: Some people have expressed interest in learning more about CPT. The US Veterans Affairs Center for Deployment Psychology has some interesting info in their online mini-course Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) for PTSD in Veterans and Military Personnel. Yes, it’s aimed at therapists and focused on veterans, but it’s still a really good source of information.
You can find a trauma account update here.
PTSD Treatment Options: An Overview, a mini-ebook from the MH@H Download Centre, covers a number of evidence-based therapies for PTSD.
It’s great that you’re doing this, Ashley, and very brave. I think a trauma account would be a good thing for me to do, too, but I’m a big-time avoider. 🙁
Thanks 🙂 Yes, that avoidance definitely poses a barrier.
Yep. That, and my numbness about certain traumas.
This makes me proud and is an excellent idea. My trauma is mostly blocked but as it arises, I shall copy this approach. Thanks!
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Proud of you for doing such a difficult thing Ashley. I very much admire your strength.
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Good for you. So brave. I’m a total avoider!! <3
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So encouraging! Thank you for sharing this! 💖
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EMDR!! Are you familiar with it?
Yes. Never tried it though aside from being a guinea pig when a colleague was learning to do it a few years back.
It helped me a lot when nothing else did. I highly recommend it!!
Cool, thanks!
It is so great that you are doing this! I am actually sort of having my classes do something similar. We read a blog about redemption narratives and now they’re getting a chance to write their own memoirs in a sort of redemption narrative format (though we have talked about a window of tolerance and how sometimes things need to stay unsaid because we aren’t ready). I really hope that they and most definitely you find healing through this sort of processing.
Wow, such a great thing to do with your classes.
I stumbled upon the idea accidentally, actually. I’ve just been teaching on instinct ever since I got my negative evaluation. Haha
I think your instinct is pretty damn good 🙂
I’d love to know how to do my own trauma account
There’s some interesting info here: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/trauma-narratives
Well done, that is such a great achievement.
It was also interesting to read about this as I hadn’t heard of a trauma account before.
Thanks for sharing this Ashley 🙂
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I liked this so much I’ve reblogged it!
I have had EMDR for PTSD but there’s a lot of trauma that is left unprocessed, I’m going to read more into what you’ve written about, and maybe get started on a trauma account myself!
Thanks for writing about this x
I find it so interesting the various different therapeutic approaches there are to processing, and probably more options is a good thing because it’s such an important area to work on.
Definitely x
Oh, well done You! And this does sound interesting … might do abit of research myself. Looking for a new shrink atm so may add this to the list of things they need to know … thankyou 🙂
Thanks 🙂
I had never heard of a trauma account. But I have found that writing and creating a narrative around my negative experiences helped which is a direct result of those events.
A trauma account without even realising it.
Yes, I think the name matters less than the process of creating a narrative.
Another strengthening exercise. You are incorporating some great habits here. You’re drive to thrive is strong! Keep going in the right direction ☺️
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This is a wonderful thing to do, I try to do bits of this myself sometimes. Glad to hear others out there experimenting with it too! It’s really brave of you to do this and share your experience, so thank you xx
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i never heard of this. sounds really great though. well done for starting with it and continuing! xo
Thanks!
Thank you so much for sharing this.
Teasing out and overcoming the power that trauma has in my life is one of the reasons I began my blog yesterday (complete newbie). It has taken me two years of feeling completely devoid of my self to realise that I really need to help myself by reliving the events that have accumulated to where I am now and therefore taking the power away from them… It’s early days, but I am hopeful
That’s great! Welcome to the blogging world!
I too find writing helpful when dealing with trauma. I like how you used the words “prison of the past” to describe what it feels like!
Yes, writing can be such a powerful tool.
I wish I had access to the resources needed to treat PTSD, the VA are doing a terrible job currently. X
Oh that sucks! xo
I totally understand wanting to avoid it. I really like the way you’ve set it up, though, with the safe, cozy space and then knowing that you’re going to yoga afterwards. Also being observant of yourself while you are writing. If I ever do something like this, I will try to remember this and follow a similar approach.
Yeah I tried my best to make something hard feel just a little more safe.