How to Find Your Voice in the Middle of the Noise: Healing from Childhood Trauma is the first self-help book from Sajida Haddad of My Rollercoaster Journey; she has also published a number of other books. The book includes tips based on the author’s own experience and things she’s researched, along with recommendations for further reading.
The first chapter explores how to recognize your own childhood trauma and keep from enacting the same patterns with your own kids. Sajida writes, “The way you treat your child becomes their inner voice, and it can be a positive inner voice if you encourage and praise your child and help them grow, or it can be a negative voice if you always belittle your child and compare them to others and make them feel like they’ll never be good enough for you.”
Other topics that are covered include friendships and boundaries, tuning out external noise to find your genuine internal voice, validation and advice, and self-esteem. There’s a chapter on faith, and I was quite impressed to learn that Sajida has memorized the Quran.
The final chapter is on healing your inner child. It addresses the effects of adverse childhood experiences and the stigma around mental health issues, and it offers strategies to support recovery and wellness. Sajida has adapted the 12 steps of AA to create the 12 steps of trauma recovery.
I always like when authors aren’t overconfident in the things they’re recommending. The author writes, “Take everything I say with a grain of salt. I am a writer. I’m not an expert. Even if I were an expert, don’t follow me blindly. Think. Finding your inner voice starts with knowing who you are. It starts with knowing your core values and doing things that resonate with them and leaving the rest behind.”
Throughout the book, Sajida emphasizes that people who’ve experienced childhood trauma aren’t alone, it’s not their fault, and healing and breaking the cycle is possible. While the book addresses the effects of childhood trauma, it doesn’t dig deep into particular traumatic experiences; it’s more forward-oriented, encouraging, and optimistic that people can find their authentic voice and create positive change.
The book is written in a chatty tone of voice, and reading it felt like sitting and having tea with a friend. I quite liked sitting down with Sajida for a mental cup of tea.
How to Find Your Voice in the Middle of the Noise is available on Amazon (affiliate link).
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This sounds like a book I might need to look into
Yeah, it’s nice that it doesn’t really get into trauma and stir stuff up; it’s quite present-focused.
I like the sound of how it’s written, that compassionate kind of voice that’s still able to be on your level without condescension. I imagine a lot of us belittle, berate and compare ourselves, so adding in childhood trauma of any kind could make that even more intense and pernicious. Sounds like this takes a fairly positive, uplifting and empowering route rather than digging too deep or becoming too bogged down in the trauma, instead helping the reader to look to the future. xx
Yeah, I thought she did a good job of that. 💕
Thank you so much for this stellar review! You made my day!
You’re very welcome!
This book sounds like something I’ll like, and possibly my therapist too.
Thank you for this and sharing. You have created a wonderful place of support 💕🕊💕
Thank you 💕
I don’t know if I’ve already stated something similar to this elsewhere on this blog, but I struggle with a formidable combination of adverse childhood experience trauma, autism spectrum disorder and high sensitivity, the ACE trauma in large part being due to my ASD and high sensitivity.
Thus it would be quite helpful to have books written about such or similar conditions involving a coexistence of ACE trauma and/or ASD and/or high sensitivity, the latter which seems to have a couple characteristics similar to ASD traits.
Childhood Disrupted fails to even once mention high sensitivity and/or autism spectrum disorder. [As it were, I also read a book on ASD that fails to even mention high sensitivity or ACE trauma. That was followed by a book about highly sensitive men, with no mention whatsoever of autism spectrum disorder or adverse childhood experience trauma.]
I therefore don’t know whether my additional, coexisting conditions will render the information and/or assigned exercises from such not-cheap books useless, or close to it, in my efforts to live much less miserably. While many/most people in my shoes would work with the books nonetheless, I cannot; I simply need to know if I’m wasting my time and, most importantly, mental efforts.
Really, it’s no secret that ACE abuse/trauma is often inflicted on autistic and/or highly sensitive children and teens by their ‘neurotypical’ peers, so why not at least acknowledge it in some meaningful, constructive way? The works I have read fail to even hint at this very plausible potential.