You Got This: Face Your Fear, Find Your Confidence is the second book by Caroline Foran, whose first book Own It I previously reviewed and was quite impressed with. In this book, she aims to turn your mental fear blocks into building blocks to boost your confidence.
The first part of the book gives background information on fear, confidence, and related concepts like perfectionism and imposter syndrome. Psychological theories, neuroscience, and research findings are explained in simple language. The author explains why the comfort zone isn’t inherently a good place, and why there is an optimal anxiety level.
The second part of the book is the confidence-building toolkit. The first tool presented was stoicism, which is something I’ve seen a number of people writing about recently, although I’ve never taken the time to really look into it. My understanding of the author’s explanation is that it’s essentially being in the present without allowing ourselves to be swayed by the desire for pleasure or the desire to avoid pain. She acknowledges that some of what you might read about stoicism may trigger your bullsh*tometer; I always like it when someone is in tune with that kind of thing.
Some of the other tools include temptation bundling (pairing something you don’t want to do with something you do want ) and getting to the “fuck it moment” where you override your fear and do a task anyway.
While there’s nothing I can identify that’s “wrong” with this book, I felt a lot less engaged than I did with the author’s first book, Own It, and it didn’t feel like she was quite as present in this book as the first. There aren’t any clear problems that I see in the book, and it’s quite possible that I wasn’t engaged because I wasn’t in all that great a place when I was reading it. My lack of engagement aside, I think this book could be quite useful for someone looking for some strategies to boost their confidence.
You Got This is available on Amazon.
I received a reviewer copy of this book from NetGalley.
My newest book, Managing the Depression Puzzle, takes a holistic, everything up to and including the kitchen sink look at how to put together the pieces of your unique depression puzzle. It’s available on Amazon and other online retailers, as well as the MH@H Store.
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