Those of us waging a battle against mental illness need to find strength wherever we can. I decided a few years back to display my own rising from the ashes on my body.
I got my first tattoo when I was 19, a dolphin on my right hip because I admired those beautiful, intelligent creatures. I didn’t give much thought to any further body art until 2012. I’d had my first relapse of depression in 2011 and spent two months in hospital, and I was finally starting to feel better and had returned to work. I decided it was time for my second tattoo, and decided to go with Chinese characters on my left hip. I asked a Chinese colleague what characters he thought best represented developing resilience, and the ones he selected literally mean “return to spring”, in the sense of regeneration and renewal. The tattooing process was quick and easy, and I was happy with the result.
Rising from the ashes
Not long after I got the tattoo, things began to take a downturn and kept spiralling downwards until I made a suicide attempt in late 2012. Once I got established on the road to recovery I decided I needed a more significant depiction of my ability to recover, and the myth of the phoenix rising from the ashes seemed intensely appropriate. I looked at it as sick me dying with the suicide attempt, and well me being reborn.
I found a tattoo artist I connected with and she turned my vague idea into an amazing drawing. Then we began the long, painful process of tattooing. It took probably around 10 hours to do, with regular breaks when I started shaking because it hurt so much. I just tried to remind myself, though, that the only reason I was here experiencing this physical pain was that I had the strength to endure so much mental pain. I was thrilled with the result, which covers my left side from hip to armpit. When I am feeling weak, it’s an amazing reminder of what I can endure.
Moving forward with strength
I’ve been unwell for the last year and a half or so, and I think it’s time for another visual representation. I’m thinking about a Celtic oak tree design, which symbolizes strength and endurance. I would like to move forward a little more in my recovery journey before I get the tattoo done, but that gives me something to look forward to. And even when depression makes my mind play tricks on me, my body can always remind me of the truth.
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17 thoughts on “Rising from the Ashes of Depression”
My left upper arm is dedicated to my recovery and has symbolic meaning for my family.
I’d love to get a lotus flower tattoo, symbolic of how they grow in the mud under water in harsh, unlikely circumstances & then rise up even more beautiful (not that I consider myself more beautiful now, but stronger)!
Your tattoos are really meaningful 🙂
Wow, I love your idea!
Wow, thank you for sharing so honestly. Most of my depression, and my near suicide attempt, were actually linked technically to situational depression, but though my experience has undoubtedly been different than yours, I deeply empathize with your pain. I think it’s very true though, as you mentioned, that we can see better days; I love the idea of using visual reminders for yourself. What has helped me see those brighter days the most has been my faith. It’s still definitely a hard journey – thanks for being willing to facilitate openness.
Thanks for your comments 🙂
Wow! I love your tattoo & what it represents 🙂 it’s always so amazing to have something to remind you of your strength & hard work 🙂
They’re great Ashley. Love the whole idea/meaning behind the Phoenix. I think I did the opposite and got a tattoo every time I wasn’t well and in a right mind! Just covered in random tattoos haha.
Depression is bad…i did a little write up on it…am very happy i was able to do it…..
Most sucide committed are as a result of super depression..
Thanks for your comment. I haven’t heard the term super depression before – are you referring to a major depressive episode superimposed on dysthymia?
That’s amazing! I use to self-harm so I got a purple semi-colon tattooed on my wrist. it was before everyone had the same tattoo. Lol.
Thanks! Tattoos can definitely be a useful tool.
I love your work. Your articles always speak volumes to me. Keep up the great work and thank you for being a voice to so many people living with mental issues
Thank you so much!
This is so beautiful!
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