Self-improvement: Shouldn't you be good enough just as you are?
Mental Health

Self-Improvement — Or How About Good Enough?

I've thought about this before, but the idea for this post came from a quote Suzette Benjamin shared on her blog: We already have everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement…all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are.Pema Chödrön I'm all in on this quote.… Continue reading Self-Improvement — Or How About Good Enough?

the poem Not by Erin Hanson
Sense of Self

You’re Not Defined By What You’re Not Ginnie Sophia did this lovely video based on the poem. You can find Erin Hanson on her Instagram and Facebook. Here's the text rather than graphic version of Not by Erin Hanson. You are not your age, Nor the size of clothes you wear, You are not a weight, Or the colour of your… Continue reading You’re Not Defined By What You’re Not

Normalizing mental illness symptoms: The validating and invalidating ways
Mental Health

Normalizing Mental Illness Symptoms: the Good & the Bad Way

I got thinking about this recently because my best friend is a normalizer, and it really doesn't feel very good sometimes.  But there are other times when normalizing aspects of mental illness can be helpful.  So what's the difference? The invalidating way A little while back, I told my best friend that I was heading… Continue reading Normalizing Mental Illness Symptoms: the Good & the Bad Way

Validation - things that it is and is not
Insights into Psychology

The Power of Validation

Skinny Hobbit from Growing Into Myself recently did a post that contained this Youtube video.  The video is about supporting someone who is grieving, but it's a powerful message about validation in general, which is what inspired this post. Many of us have chosen to blog because there are difficult experiences that we're dealing with. … Continue reading The Power of Validation

red attention signs

The “Attention-Seeking” Label and the Stigma It Represents

The idea of labelling people as attention-seeking is not unique to mental illness, but it's certainly something that seems to come up an awful lot.  The labellers might be friends and family, but unfortunately, they may also be health care providers. One of the labels that comes up regularly is "attention-seeking." Physical manifestations of mental… Continue reading The “Attention-Seeking” Label and the Stigma It Represents

What is... insights into psychology series
Insights into Psychology

What Is… Emotional Invalidation

In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms.  This week's term is invalidation. According to Psychology Today, validation involves conveying acceptance, and recognizing that the person's thoughts/feelings/reactions are understandable.  It also serves to communicate that the relationship is important.  It doesn't necessarily mean agreeing or approving, something I think… Continue reading What Is… Emotional Invalidation