Good vibes only written in watercolours, with images of crying faces
Mental health

“Should” You Avoid Negative People?

Along the lines of "choose happiness," you may have seen the message "good vibes only," or something along the lines of getting rid of negative people from your life. But where do people who aren't well fit into this? To be clear, I'm not talking about people who are negative about you.  If someone is… Continue reading “Should” You Avoid Negative People?

Mental health

“Should” You Worry About Things?

A little while ago I did a post about the worry tree as a tool for managing worry, and my friends at WeDIDIt mentioned that the idea the worry is productive can be a trap that leads to endless worry and rumination. Hence this post – "should" you worry, ruminate, self-criticize, or engage in other… Continue reading “Should” You Worry About Things?

Emerging blogger, Mental health

Emerging Blogger Series: Joey Schizowhatnow)

The emerging blogger series is aimed at community building through giving mental health bloggers who are early in their blogging evolution the opportunity to have their work seen by a wider audience.  It's also a way to introduce you as a reader to some newer members of our community. This post is by Joey of… Continue reading Emerging Blogger Series: Joey Schizowhatnow)

drilling into block of wood
Mental health

Drilling Down to Core Beliefs

Core beliefs are the underlying beliefs that we have about the self, others, and world, as well as the future.  They arise as a result of the experiences we've been through, including trauma.  Forms that core beliefs take They are held as absolutes, and tend to be expressed using words like "always" or "never".  They… Continue reading Drilling Down to Core Beliefs

beaver dam on a stream
Mental health

Thoughts as leaves on a stream

Thoughts as leaves on a stream is a popular metaphor used in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to represent noticing thoughts and letting them pass by without attaching to them.  I like this metaphor, since it's not about fighting the thoughts or trying to make them go away, but just riding them out. I got… Continue reading Thoughts as leaves on a stream

woman sitting in bathtub surrounded by flowers
Mental health

Allowing Vulnerability (Even if It’s Scary)

I had a tough weekend.  It started off badly with a friend contacting my brother to check up on me, which rocked the walls of the little cave I've built for myself.  And then something happened with my safe person that made me feel very unsafe.  The dark voice inside my head kept repeating "He's… Continue reading Allowing Vulnerability (Even if It’s Scary)

lying on the beach
Mental health, Travel

Pressing reset (or maybe just pause)

Last night I got back from a week-long vacation at an all-inclusive resort in Mexico.  The vacation came at a very good time.  I was starting to get really mired down in negative thoughts, thoughts that convinced me that I was being used, wasn't cared about, and was a failure.  The rainy darkness that is… Continue reading Pressing reset (or maybe just pause)