Am I a bad person? Or maybe that's the wrong question
Identity, Self, & Relationships

Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?

"Am I a bad person?" It seems to be a fairly common question. Searching for that question on Google yields 263 million hits. I've also seen it raised in the blogosphere. Regardless of what the answer may or may not seem to be, though, is it a valid and/or useful question? What exactly is a… Continue reading Am I a Bad Person? Or Is That the Wrong Question?

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Identity, Self, & Relationships

This Was Me: My Mental Health Nursing Career

This is the final post in a mini-series that's looked back at my past.  This post is a bit different because I don't have any photos to capture my mental health nursing career. I became a nurse in 2004. It was my second health professional career; the first was as a pharmacist. This is a quick overview… Continue reading This Was Me: My Mental Health Nursing Career

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Identity, Self, & Relationships

This Was Me: My Travelling 20s & 30s

I did my first big international trip (aside from a high school exchange trip to Japan) when I was 22, and that was when the travel bug firmly took root.  From then on, each year I would take all my vacation time together in one block and do an international trip, other than the years… Continue reading This Was Me: My Travelling 20s & 30s

How do you feel about your own company? Is it a good or a bad place?
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How Do You Feel About Your Own Company?

I find it fascinating the range of comfort levels people have with being alone.  It's pretty much guaranteed that we will all need to spend at least some time in our own company, yet there are many, many ways in which people experience this.  While I know that for some people alone time is quite… Continue reading How Do You Feel About Your Own Company?

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This Was Me: The Growing Up Years

Image by congerdesign from Pixabay For a little something different, I thought I'd take a bit of a stroll down memory lane to the earlier years of my life. This first post in the "this is me" series looks at my childhood and the high school years. Here's me as a baby.  My parents had built this house… Continue reading This Was Me: The Growing Up Years

A question of identity: What makes you, you?
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A Question of Identity: What Makes You, You?

I've written about this before in more general terms (What Does the Self Consist of?), but in this post I'll try to get a little more specific. When dig down deep to the core, what is it that makes you, you? I think a major part of the foundation of who we are is the… Continue reading A Question of Identity: What Makes You, You?

If you fail, is it at a task, or as a person?
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Are You a Failure at a Task, or as a Person?

Failure isn't fun. There's just no two ways about that. But what does that failure mean> I think that, particularly when mental illness is involved, it's easy to leap from "I failed at [X]" to "I'm a failure." But taking a step back, they're not really the same thing. Fear of failure Fear of failure… Continue reading Are You a Failure at a Task, or as a Person?

Shifting identities: Living with mental illness disability - image of Carnaval mask
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Mental Illness Disability and Identity Shifts

Role identity is a concept in sociology that refers to the identities that we build around the various socially defined roles that we fulfill. Identity shifts can occur over time based on various factors, including the importance those roles play in our lives overall. My adult role identities Student was a key role identity for… Continue reading Mental Illness Disability and Identity Shifts

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Identity, Self, & Relationships

What Do You See In The Mirror?

When we look in the mirror, I suspect that very few of us see what's objectively there in the reflection. So why is that? Mirror recognition is not as simple as it may seem. The vast majority of animals, including my guinea pig munchkins, lack this ability.  When we as humans look at the reflection… Continue reading What Do You See In The Mirror?

What does the self consist of? - sketch of a woman's head
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What Does the Self Consist of?

What is it that makes you, you? Is there even a self? Let's consider a few different approaches. Buddhism A fundamental concept in Buddhism is non-self. The word Anatta is used for the principle that "there is in humans no permanent, underlying substance that can be called the soul" (Wikipedia). The belief that there is… Continue reading What Does the Self Consist of?