Are there really toxic people? graphic of a toxic waste barrel
Identity and relationships, Mental health

The “Toxic Person” Label and Mental Illness

The internet is full of talk about toxic people. Searching for "toxic person" yields 295 million hits on Google. That's a whole lotta toxicity. If someone is abusive, you deserve to a) be free from them, and b) call them toxic or whatever else you might choose. But those 295 million online hits aren't all… Continue reading The “Toxic Person” Label and Mental Illness

Freedom alarm: Freedom is in peril, so defend it with all your might
Identity and relationships

I Am Not Free to…

PublicDomainVectors The other day I saw an excellent article by Andy of Eden in Babylon on Entitlement and Patriotism. He contrasted the entitlement of people complaining that the pandemic lockdown violated their freedom as patriotic Americans with the self-sacrifice of people in uniform that serve their country and defend its values. In Canada, we may… Continue reading I Am Not Free to…

chain of stones in the shape of a heart
Identity and relationships

This Was Me: The Childhood Years

Image by congerdesign from Pixabay For a little something different, I thought I'd take a bit of a stroll down memory lane to the earlier years of my life. Here's me as a baby.  My parents had built this house (okay they weren't physically doing the building) two years before I came along as firstborn.  They stayed in… Continue reading This Was Me: The Childhood Years

Identity and relationships, Psychology

Ring Theory – How to Support Grieving People

Skinny Hobbit of Growing Into Myself recently did a post on ring theory, which I hadn't heard of before.  I was curious to learn more, and one of the sources she mentioned was an article on ring theory in the LA Times. The development of ring theory Ring theory was developed by clinical psychologist Susan… Continue reading Ring Theory – How to Support Grieving People

Identity and relationships, Mental health

Why It’s Hard For Me To Be Around People

Social phobia, also known as social anxiety disorder, can be a crippling condition that makes it extremely difficult to be around people.  It affects around 13% of the population at some point during their lifetime.  A key element of the condition is a fear of doing something that will result in humiliation. That's not me. … Continue reading Why It’s Hard For Me To Be Around People

Identity and relationships, Mental health

Does Mental Illness Make You Hard to Love?

I recently commented on another blogger's post and mentioned that depression makes me hard to love.  From their response, it seemed like they misinterpreted where I was going with that, so I thought it was worth doing a post about. I've written before about how I used to conceptualize separate well and ill selves.  My… Continue reading Does Mental Illness Make You Hard to Love?

Book cover: Year of the Introvert by Michaela Chung
Book reviews, Identity and relationships

Book Review: The Year of the Introvert

The Year of the Introvert by Michaela Chung is a book that is wholeheartedly pro-introvert. The book defines introverts as "people who gain energy in solitude and lose energy in stimulating environments."  The author's stance is that introversion is not a limitation.  The tone has a motivational, coaching style as the author encourages you to… Continue reading Book Review: The Year of the Introvert