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Weekend Wrap-Up

Here’s what happened in my life over the past week:

  • My one in-person friendship that’s been on its last legs for a while now has finally gasped and died. It’s unfortunate, but such is life.
  • My parents are in town this weekend. They brought me food, which is nice, but I’m pretty indifferent to seeing them. We used to have a good relationships, but now I just feel totally disconnected from them. They were here yesterday for a little over an hour, which was too long. Having people around for more than an hour is excessively exhausting. And my dad’s answer to everything is going for a walk. He came out with that twice yesterday, which was less than usual, but still annoying.
  • I got my taxes done. I did them myself online. I didn’t pay any text last year, but because of some refundable tax credits, the government will be sending me some money, which is nice.
  • I was already grumbly about the whole psychosis=violent thing, when I came across this comment on someone else’s blog post about the recent mass shootings that reminded me why I get so pissy about it: “Until we address mental illness its not going to go away. Its not the guns, its the people who have the guns and are mentally ill.” First, woman, learn what a damn apostrophe is. And second, go fuck yourself.
  • Perhaps I’m just too much of a dinosaur to understand, but what the hell is with “stories”? I didn’t get the point of them on Instagram, and now they’re on WordPress and Pinterest. Why is everyone jumping on the bandwagon? Why is it even a bandwagon at all?
guinea pigs Oreo and Casper by their hay rack

This is Oreo and Casper hanging out by their beloved rusty hay rack. It doesn’t take long after I’ve filled it with hay and hooked it onto the side of the cage for Oreo to knock it off on one side and snuggle in behind it.

How has your week been?

Mental Health @ Home Books: Psych Meds Made Simple, Managing the Depression Puzzle, and Making Sense of Psychiatric Diagnosis
Mental Health @ Home Books by Ashley L. Peterson

69 thoughts on “Weekend Wrap-Up”

  1. Sorry about your in-person friendship!! If I lived nearby, I’d be your in-person friend, for sure!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Yeah, that comment about guns is ignorant. It’s just hurtful and stupid. I feel your pain regarding comments like that–they really hurt.

    I’m glad you’re getting money back!! YAY!!

    Aww, look at the guineas! Too much cuteness!!

    My week has been hellish in an emotional sense, but I’m finally coming out of it, and none of it was permanently damning, or anything. Just a lot to deal with, but I think it’ll all be okay. Here’s hoping you and I have great weeks starting tomorrow!! YAY!!

  2. I am so sorry about you losing a friend. I ditched a bunch at one time and it’s painful. I do Instagram and sometimes FB stories but that’s it.

  3. Ah you have Guinea Pigs! We used to have two until we couldn’t take them with us when we moved. They are really relaxing pets. Dull week here. Still working at home, so everyday is the same.

  4. That is another adorable picture of your babies. I love it when you post pictures of them. I am sorry about the loss of your friend. That is rough. And parents can be challenging at the best of times, so I can only imagine it’s rough when one has depression and isn’t in the mood to deal with it all on a particular weekend. I send a warm hug

  5. So very sorry about your in-person friend. ๐Ÿ™
    Absolutely agree with you about having people for more than an hour. ๐Ÿ˜€
    That comment is horrific! ๐Ÿ™โ€โ™€๏ธ

  6. Hahaha! I agree, when I see bad grammar, I canโ€™t even devote energy to what theyโ€™re saying. Bummer about the friend situation ๐Ÿ˜•

  7. Re parents: feel similarly. Want to feel more connected and donโ€™t know how.

    โ€œStoriesโ€: do sites want us to use more storage (graphics) so that we have to upgrade our plan? More posts equal more eyeballs, they think?

  8. It’s distressing how thick the stigma is that associates mental illness with murderous violence. I wonder how that lady thinks we should “address mental illness.” Lock up anyone with a diagnosis because they MIGHT get violent and murder a bunch of people? It’s also pretty disturbing to hear someone say “it’s not the guns”: as though a person having a right to go out and buy an assault rifle — designed ONLY to kill – is not even a factor in the equation.

    The “psychosis equals violence” equation is particularly alarming. I read your two posts earlier (just didn’t comment) – and so I now want to express solidarity with your position.

    I also have no idea what the “stories” thing is all about. I’m often getting a message that somebody has “added to their story” and sometimes I am even told that I myself added to my own story. I never pay any attention.

    My week was pretty spacey. I was unusually fragmented as well as unusually unmotivated. Slept erratically but more than usual. Seems to happen periodically, which I equate with my being told I may be “mildly bipolar.” Sometimes though, especially after cathartic or critical experiences, the overall system seems to need to be reset.

    I seem to be on the upswing again. Hopefully I’ll be better focused this week.

      1. Thanks Ashley. On an unrelated note, I’m either going to write a blog post that I point you toward or else send an email at some soon point. (Gathering my thoughts) —

    1. I wonder if it’s a common suggestion from a certain generation or social group. I had a landlord once who, when I told him that my mom had just died, immediately replied with: “Take a walk.”

        1. The loss was ages ago, but thank you. It does seem an invalidating response. For the record, I did as he suggested immediately, and did not find it helpful at the time.

            1. This might be useful IDK https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stress-fracture/202002/stop-saying-im-sorry-your-loss

              I was looking for what the proper response according to standard etiquette should be, when one tells someone that one’s loved one has just passed away. I always thought you were just supposed to say “I’m sorry.” But I guess I just realized that I have no idea what to say when someone tells me their loved one has died, either.

              Not to mention, I’m not sure there is either etiquette or propriety in today’s society. But at least I just learned a knew rhyme.

  9. Iโ€™m sorry about your loss, as for the mass shootings itโ€™s sad that this is the kind of world that we live in but things like that happen everywhere !

      1. Well I totally get what youโ€™re saying because it just makes sense. America is a very different place to Ireland. Feel free to add me on Snapchat if you want and we can have a chat about it. Thatโ€™s if you use Snapchat

  10. โ€œIts not the guns, its the people who have the guns and are mentally ill.โ€ – The first thing that got me here was the lack of apostrophes, too. Moron. This sort of shit just perpetuates the stigma and misunderstandings, not to mention the ignorance, when it comes to mental health. The thing with psychosis though, as you went through in your previous post, is that itโ€™s long since been linked to violence in the media and in films. There are deep-rooted beliefs and assumptions that will take time to change.

    Iโ€™m sorry you feel so disconnected to your parents these days. I hope you can enjoy a little of the time with them in some way, or at least the food they brought. Add to that the extra intensity of long durations with them and I can appreciate itโ€™s not going to be easy. I hope tomorrow can be a little lighter and easier-going, and that you can then recharge a little on your own afterwards. I get on well with my parents but I find even an hour of casual interaction is draining to the point where Iโ€™m desperate to sit alone and I feel gleeful at the thought of zoning out to some TV or a book alone.

    Well done on doing the taxes. Sounds like a win for the little bit of money back, but a loss with that friendship, Iโ€™m so sorry. Itโ€™s not the same as an in-person friendship by a long shot, but you still have us here, your awesome online friends ๐Ÿ˜‰ xx

  11. That doesn’t sound like a pleasant week to me. I’m sorry about your loss.
    I just read your post on psychosis, I hate it when people advocate for a cause at the expense of stigmatizing other conditions. I can understand why you are grumbly about it. Even today, I am still annoyed with that writer who made the comment about suicide=selfish.
    I haven’t seen my parents for a year due to travel restrictions (they live in Singapore). I miss them but I also know I wouldn’t be able to live with them together because I need my alone time. The only housemate I can tolerate is my cat ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. I have seen a couple of similar comments on Twitter, regarding the guns and mental health. It just never seems to go away these kind of comments.

    Sorry about the friendship. As another blogger has mentioned, if I was near, I would hang out if you wanted.

    Lovely photos of your guinea pigs.

    I have been counting down my week, with knowing I am on annual leave in my evening job next week.

    I am now deputy for mum’s finances and now waiting for the official papers to come. That will be another week, or two to get those, along with my bill from my solicitor.

    I had my first covid vaccine yesterday morning, so feeling the effects of that.

    1. That’s good that the deputyship has finally gone through. Will there be a lot to do to get everything set up once the official papers arrive?

      1. It will at the beginning, letting certain people know I am now deputy, including the bank.
        Once I have access to mum’s accounts, its then paying the debts mum has.

  13. I’m sorry to read that your friendship has ended. My week has been pretty bla, bla (not as in boring), and now I think I’m sick with strep or something. I wanted to comment with something else, but it slipped my mind.

  14. Friendship is hard and the pandemic makes it harder. It’s like a crucible, I think, for relationships. I’m sorry.

    The fur babies look good – mine has been in to the hospital – back now but solution free as yet. I had to give her ca gabapentin – she’s horrid at the vet – and it was so funny and pathetic.

    I did an exciting thing I totally regret this week that I’ll be sharing on my site if I don’t totally chicken out.

    Fuck people who don’t understand mental illness and have bad grammar. Please don’t check my response for errors ๐Ÿ˜

    Can I be presumptuous and say I’m sorry it sounds like depression is rising? (I wrote and deleted that sentence A LOT) so, if I’m overstepping, super-sorry. ๐Ÿ’—

    1. Not overstepping at all. I’ve got a phone appointment in a couple of weeks with a psychiatrist and I’m hoping he’ll be able to order the stimulant I ran out of last month. It’s a pain in the ass, clinic websites all say “we don’t reorder controlled drugs.” I say they should go fuck themselves, but what can you do? If the psychiatrist won’t ordered it I’ll guess I’ll go back to my old asshat of a GP. I would rather not, but stimulant-free Ashley is not a good Ashley.

  15. Hi Ashleyleia

    I’m sorry for your loss. The pandemic is hard for in-person friendship. I hope you can get through this and find solaceโค

    For me, I am struggling to write a good thesis abstract. Now, I know that it takes days instead of hours for a novice like me. Trying to find some diversion, so I’m here commenting on your post๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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