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Do You Feel Impressed by Other Bloggers’ Abilities?

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It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others, and the world of blogging is no exception. It can be easy to compare what someone else is doing to what we’re doing, and frame it all within our own context. But it doesn’t work that way; we all have different skills and things we struggle with. While you’re feeling impressed by one aspect of someone else’s blog, they may be thinking there’s no way they could manage to pull off what you’re doing on your blog.

I’m guessing that most of us have an “easy” type of post. By easy, I mean the kind of thing you can get into a groove with, and cranking out that kind of post is relatively low effort. My easy and your easy may be entirely different; your easy might be my difficult, and vice versa. And what someone easy is may not be obvious. My easy is actually researched posts. That may not be most people’s easy, but my depression gives me slow brain, and researched posts mean that I don’t have to come up with my own ideas; I can piggyback onto other people’s ideas. So if anyone happens to be impressed by me writing lots of researched posts, that’s missing the context that, in my head, that’s my easy post.

Another thing that people sometimes seem to be impressed by when it comes to my blog is the level of organization. But again, that misses out on context. If it wasn’t for my blog’s structure, I’d have no clue what day of the week it was. Being organized allows me to maximize what slow brain is prepared to give me. Being organized isn’t something extra I do to make my blog better; it’s a 4-wheeled walker I rely on to keep moving.

Whether you share art, music, poetry, your thoughts, what happened in your day, or anything else, there’s most likely another blogger out there thinking damn, I wouldn’t be able to manage that with my blog. Some people have a hard time publishing once a week, while others have a hard time keeping it under five a day. Different things are easy and hard for each of us.

Finally, a key thing to keep in mind is that people have vastly different amounts of time to spend on their blog, depending on what’s going on in the rest of their life. Someone with a partner, five kids, and three animals, plus a full-time job, is going to have a lot less time for blogging me, who has nothing else to fit into the day but some guinea pig cuddles.

None of this is meant to put down my blog; I’m quite content with it. I’m just trying to say that there’s more than one way of approaching blogging, and no single way is better or more valid than another. You might look at another blog and think “I couldn’t do that,” but that blogger might be thinking the same thing about your blog. There’s room for all of it.

So the next time you happen to compare yourself and your blog to someone who’s doing something that looks impressive, remember, their context is not your context. It’s great that they’re doing their thing, but that doesn’t make it better than your thing. Your blog is as unique as you are, and that diversity is what makes the blogosphere such an interesting place. So you do you, and your blog will be the better for it.

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61 thoughts on “Do You Feel Impressed by Other Bloggers’ Abilities?”

  1. I love this post Ashley. What a wonderful message to give other bloggers. Comparing ourselves with others is the first step to giving up. There will always be someone more talented, more accomplished, more proficient… Itโ€™s good to look at how you can improve and to do that itโ€™s helpful to look at how others are doing things. But we should be careful not to compare for the reasons you say. Think of it as drawing inspiration instead. Concentrate only on becoming a little better yourself. Reward yourself when you take a step forward. Thatโ€™s always enough. Above all else make sure you enjoy it. Otherwise whatโ€™s the point? Wishing you well ๐Ÿ™

    1. Yes, without enjoyment, it’s just work! There’s many ways to be inspired and learn from other bloggers, but it’s hard to do that if one gets bogged down in comparisons.

  2. I seem to go in waves as to regular blogs or not. I do feel from time to time that I could do better, I could do more, especially when it comes to formatting my blog, responding to other bloggers and understanding how WordPress works on things like formatting or reposting a blog. Thanks for reminding me that blogging is a self-directed process (a personal journey) for talking about how I feel and how I perceive and how I interpret and is not some sort of competition as to who is best or what is best.

    1. That personal journey will be different for each blogger and at different points in time. Continuing to blog is what’s important, no matter how regular or infrequent that may be.

  3. Their context is not your context – that’s a good way to put it. It’s hard not to compare sometimes, isn’t it? We can know it’s not helpful or that it’s not possible to really compare like that, but we do it anyway. I’m guilty of doing it and making myself feel awful. For the most part these days I can just be impressed by other bloggers and be happy for them, be proud of what they’re achieving and celebrate their efforts without feeling (too) shitty about my own.

    PS. Even as I write this all I’m thinking is “bloody hell, Ashley writes so many posts that are solid in their content. Researched, well put together, useful, just spot on. I’ve not written a single proper post in a loooong time. Shit shit shit.” ๐Ÿ˜†

    1. Oh yeah, I think it’s impossible not to get sucked into the comparison rabbit hole once in a while.

      I was moaning and groaning and getting nothing done yesterday because I was feeling a bit nauseous, and as I’m writing this I’m thinking that if my insides were trying to strangle me like Caz’s are, I’d be hiding in a blanket fort, never to emerge again! Screw the blog, blankets and painkillers!

      1. It’s amusing to find that you end up comparing yourself to someone else, who’s already comparing themselves to you. I do the unhelpful comparison nonsense when my insides are twisting too – “oh get on with it, Caz, some people have far worse to deal with”. Just makes me feel worse, but it’s an automatic thought process.

        How’s the nausea today? It won’t help you to know this but I had a super shitty getting-nothing-done-day yesterday where I ended up going around in circles driving myself around the bend. Let’s hope today is a smoother day for us both, preferably without the nausea for you!

  4. I sometimes find it so hard to know what to write about, there are so many blogs out there covering the same subjects, and I wonder if I have anything to add to that subject. I feel I am far from being a good blogger at times

    Other times I just write from the heart, which seems to flow so much better.

    1. If it was just about subject matter, we’d probably all be going to really big sites and not reading blogs at all. I think there’s a lot of value in hearing unique, individual voices.

  5. Iโ€™m not sure I really compare myself.. as my writing is just whats in my head. I get frustrated when I canโ€™t write sometimes… for instance I do get sort of envious when someone will write a starkly honest post about that thing that happened to me etc but Iโ€™m not yet at the stage if that makes sense, xx

    1. That totally makes sense. And it’s funny, I’ve been going through some of my old blog posts lately, and it’s so interesting to see when things happened that I’ve figured out now but wasn’t able to see at that point in time.

  6. ๐Ÿ™‚ In all honesty, there are impressive bloggers out there; for example, Neil Patel.

    I stopped the comparison game a long time ago.

    Everyone blogs at a different level.

    2021 will make it thirteen years I have been involved in blogging. So, putting any type of blog post together should be child’s play for me.

    And, I also agree that everyone’s blog is unique.

    The most important thing of all is believing in your ability to create content for your blog every time that you set your mind to it.

    Thanks for another interesting topic, Ashleyleia.

  7. I have to admit I find myself comparing how others structure their blogs. I really admire this blog Ashley. You come across as having it all together. If I had to write using “papers” the way you do, I wouldn’t be able to write.
    I have learned to use my personal experience color my writing. Sometimes it works, sometimes it falls flat on its face. If I write five posts in a row that is quite the feat…lol

  8. ‘their context is not your context’.
    I love that line for its truth. I do compare myself to others a lot (mostly because I see so much differences everywhere). But appreciating the difference instead of putting value to either is a much healthier and positive way of looking at it indeed. Lovely post!

  9. No. What impresses me is the lives and life accomplishments of people who just happen to blog about their lives. I can’t imagine being impressed by the blog itself ie: the presentation. Tho there are blogs that are visually horrible but the owner of the blog thinks it’s the cat’s meow, one in particular that I’m thinking of – having to wade through all the graphics and colors and lists and fonts – yikes! sometimes I miss some of the content because it is overwhelmed by all the other crap. Anyway – content is king, as someone once said (ok, that someone is Bill Gates) Just give me something interesting or funny or thought provoking to read – THAT will impress me. I don’t care about the package (unless like the above-mentioned blog, the package just hurts my eyes!)

    1. There’ve been a few times when I would have liked to follow a blogger, but the neon pink font on top of purple and green zebra print background was too much for my eyes to handle.

  10. This is a very good and important message!! Comparison is not only hurtful to the person doing it, it also can defy logic. Like, I can blog all freakin’ day, but like you pointed out, I don’t have a husband and five kids and a job. It becomes like apples and oranges, or something. I don’t think that anyone else’s blog has ever made me feel inadequate, but I don’t spend a long time seeking out other blogs to read. (Not sure why.)

    I definitely get insanely jealous moreso with the NYC MIdnight competitions I do, if I don’t make it to the next round. That feels like [bleep] [bleeping] [bleep], ya know?

      1. A very blue shell ๐Ÿ™‚
        I have seen some beautiful websites with all sorts of features – but it is all a bit beyond me at the moment. I like my royal blue ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. This was a great reminder to not get so caught up in comparisons. As someone who struggles with her consistently low number of subscribers, I tend to want to throw in the towel and avoid blogging at periods of time because I feel like what’s the point?

  12. Very good points, Ashley. I always tried to tell my students, no matter what subject I was teaching that day, that Context Matters.
    Safe Air Hugs, if helpful at the moment,
    shira

  13. Itโ€™s hard to override the very human tendency to compare. Thatโ€™s a trap that seems to exist everywhere, and blogging is no exception.
    I always love reading your insight and thoughtful perspective on the topics you present. Keep em coming! ๐Ÿ˜

  14. I can relate just wrote my first one and started to explore and get inspired but with that also started to doubt my abilities so thank you so much cause I felt no one will read my blogs cause others r soon good so thank u once again

  15. Yes, I was going to say, like Rollercoaster above, your easy is my difficult. My easy comes when I suddenly think of something that might make a good blog post, and then write it spontaneously.

    As far as being impressed with other bloggers, I find you and others impressive. You, in that your blog is informative, on pertinent themes that interest me, as well as well-organized. There’s a sense of diligence about it.

    My own commitment to blogging is pretty much on the back burner right now. I often feel that i don’t really want to be “putting myself out there” so much. This is balanced out, however, by having relatively few readers that I know of. I guess for me it helps to keep it low key.

  16. I really like the framework and validation you have provided here. Blogging is as individual as we are and there are so many different factors that go into our blogs and perspectives.

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