Weekend Wrap-Up

Weekend Wrap-Up

wrapping paper, ribbon, and twine

Here’s what happened in my life over the past week:

  • Sometimes, people manage to get it right. In last week’s elections in the U.S., Darren White, the former sheriff in Nodaway county in Missouri who leaned hard into victim-blaming in Daisy Coleman’s rape case, got his ass kicked. His opponent in the race for sheriff got 73% of the vote.
  • I’m loving my weighted blanket that I got a few months ago. I don’t use it much for sleep, but it’s nice to have it laid over my legs during the day.
  • A court struck down a provision of Canada’s medical assistance in dying legislation that had required natural death to be reasonably foreseeable. The government’s proposed change clearly states that people whose sole condition is mental illness are shit outta luck. While that’s not surprising, I do find it disappointing. Physical pain sucks. Mental pain sucks. Giving people options as to what to do about that is civilized. Deciding whose suffering counts and whose doesn’t… doesn’t feel quite so civilized.
  • I discovered a new SEO site audit tool called Seobility. It crawls around a site and gives a report on various things that could use fixing. While I don’t actually care about most of this stuff, I do quite like mostly-mindless tasks along these lines. I turn into a little robot, chugging along getting some things done but not having to do any original thought, which is far easier for me than anything that does require actual thought. Some people knit. I do technical SEO tweaks. Same same but different.
  • I mentioned last week that my best friend was too embarrassed to see me because I’m slow. After me berating him (albeit very quietly and slowly because my speech is still impaired) in a Starbucks, we eventually got at what the real underlying issue is. It’s something that’s come up before, and it seems like he does finally get that it’s not acceptable for me, so we’re going to work on continuing the friendship.
  • One day when I had the boys out for blanket fort time, Peanut fell asleep and started dreaming. His eyes were darting around like he was possessed, and he was flapping his ears like he was going to take off. I see them dreaming occasionally, but this was the first time I saw it up close. My guess is he dreams about celery and sunshine. I didn’t get a picture/video because I didn’t want to move and wake him up, but this is the two of them being kissy face.

How has your week been?

Mental Health @ Home Books by Ashley L. Peterson

27 thoughts on “Weekend Wrap-Up”

  1. I am seriously considering getting a weighted blanket, I had ordered one but the order was cancelled 😞.

    Im glad your friend is willing to work on the friendship rather than bailing.

  2. I would have loved to have seen Peanut dreaming, that would have amused me 😄 ive spent the past week recovering, still got a while to go 💚

  3. Awww, sweet dreams of celery and sunshine!! How lovey!! What a cute guinea piggie.

    I’m glad your friend’s issue was something else!! Here’s to friendship!!

    I’m also glad that the victim-blamer lost in a landslide! Serves him right. What a bad attitude. I hate people who go around saying, “Boys will be boys,” and that sort of garbage.

    My week has been… odd? Unpredictable, as per usual? And yet, even when you can predict that life will be unpredictable, you can’t predict in which ways! 😮 I got a lot done on the roof, but I’ve been sleeping until, like, 1:00 or 2:00 in the afternoon, for around twelve hours a night, and good grief. I have no clue what’s wrong with me, but I’m leaning toward thinking it’s a change in the weather with the time change and shorter days all around being the culprit. I can’t quite catch up to it. I’d ask Dr. Phlegm if I could increase my alertness aid for the duration, but I’m already going to have to go up on Prozac for winter, so I’m not sure he’d want me to alter both. I suspect we’re coming into a time of year where I need to spend as much time as possible outside during the daytime.

    I hope next week is great for us!!

      1. That makes sense!! [Nods.] Good point! I hope I get it done soon. It’s equal parts physically and psychologically massive!! But the end is in sight!! 🙂

  4. That’s good your friend is willing to work with you on your friendship.

    Glad you are still enjoying that weighted blanket. I have heard so much good about them.
    I have no plans to get myself one anytime soon, but I have no doubts knowing I would get on with one, because I know how I am when I start piling the extra blankets on my bed at winter.

    I am still not happy with my evening job and more so since, when working hours were reduced. I have no job satisfaction here now. Bored because of the work not being enough for me, to keep me busy, although when we move around next month, that area is a bit bigger and so hopefully I won’t be bored then. But I don’t feel safe in my job and it certainly does not feel same any more.
    We are all not happy.

    I have enjoyed my day with my support bubble. I plan to go to bed in next half hour.

    Tomorrow, will be self-care. I plan after breakfast to soak my feet in a bowl of water, with a bath fizz.
    Scented candles going.
    Then some reading.
    After lunch, I may watch some dvd’s. But if not and I want to continue with quiet, then reading more, or colouring.

  5. I have some blankets I use similarly. They enhance gratitude for having a safe place indoors during inclement weather. Seobility sounds interesting too. I had a female friend some years ago who had psychomotor difficulties and was slow due to the effect of a couple strokes. I don’t think of myself as a particularly patient person, but her condition seemed to draw out my patience. This baffled both myself and others.

    The week ended on a positive note though it contained a lot of cognitive dissonance. Being in the position where a number of people suddenly believe in me more than I believe in myself is doing a number on my head. But there could be worse such numbers. Overall, I’ve a lot to be thankful for.

  6. I actually spent most of my week in online training for certification as a betrayal trauma coach. I have a feeling COVID isn’t going anywhere for a while, so I best start figuring out a way to build the coaching side of things. I also had three practices with my TED Talk coach. Only three weeks to the day. I feel like I could do it today, so I guess that’s a good sign.

    I’m honestly torn on the end-of-life mental health argument. I’ve been low, real low, but I’ve always come out of it. There may have been one or two times I would have considered pushing the button if I knew a quick, painless death awaited. I’m glad that wasn’t an option to me and I just wonder how many people would push the button when actual better days were ahead. It’s not like terminal cancer and while I get pissy at those who don’t recognize mental health as seriously as physical health, I don’t think I can make the argument for termination of life based on mental health as easily as I can with physical health.

    Do you know why Darren White lost? Because he was asking for it.

    1. That sounds like a good idea about the coaching.

      I guess with end-of-life I see a distinction between suicidal as a symptom and getting to the point where things clearly aren’t getting better. If someone expresses the wish consistently over an extended period of time, like a couple of years, let the poor person go already.

      Darren White actually lost 4 years ago, and then he ran again this year against the incumbent. Hopefully it’s because people figured out he was an asshole.

  7. It’s good to have a go-to mindless activity like that. 🙂
    So glad to hear about your friend. I hope the efforts of both of you will pay off and that you can continue the friendship.
    Have a lovely rest of the weekend. 🙂

  8. I’ve not come across Seobility before so thanks for mentioning that, I’ll go check it out. I’ve only more recently been paying attention to SEO and I wish I hadn’t because I can’t get my DA to budge no matter how much hard work I’ve put it, and Moz doesn’t seem to even be picking up external backlinks. Still, I’d rather than this knitting as well.

    I’m not sure what to say with your friend, and it’s not my place to really make comment. I obviously don’t know what’s really going on under the surface for him but I’m glad you stood your ground and made it clear it’s not acceptable, so hopefully that paves a way forward from here.

    Kissy face. So sweet. I never really thought of them dreaming before but of course they do. Sweet. xx

    1. Moz puzzles me. There really seems to be no rhyme or reason to it. It tells me I have zero internal links, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised when it doesn’t pick up links on other sites.

      My friend is extremely rigid about certain idiosyncrasies he has, but his insight into it isn’t that great, so sometimes he’ll flail about and come out with total crap before it becomes clear what’s actually going on. I know the idiosyncrasies aren’t going to change, but he seems to get it that the rigidity does need to change or I’m done. It could go either way, but at least I’ve established where I stand.

      I think it’s so cool that animals dream, and I wish I could peek inside their little heads while they’re doing it.

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