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Emerging Blogger Series: In My Head With Simon

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This post is by In My Head With Simon.

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Making Peace with Where You Are

A Letter to Students who battle Mental Illnesses

To Those Who Battle with Mental Illness:

I am a planner. I plan my diet. I plan my agenda for the day. I meticulously planned my academic journey and my future career. But as everyone knows, life does not always go according to plan. It throws these hurdles in your path for you to jump over. Sometimes it even slices right through your plan, redirecting the course of your life. For me, this hurdle is depression and anxiety.

Mental illnesses can silently slither into your life. It starts with signs so small you don’t notice it’s there at first. By the time it becomes more obvious, you’re dangling on the edge of a precipice. This is how my first encounter with depression felt. It threw a wrench in my academic plans. It forced me to take a two-year break from college and re-evaluate my plans. I questioned whether I could even go back to college, whether I was strong enough to endure the stresses that come with it. When I finally decided to give college another try, I chose a small university with a warm, sunny climate, similar to my home country.

I went abroad in 2013 and was expected to graduate in 2017. But during my first year I had my first major depressive episode. I had to grapple with the fact that my plans had changed. I constantly compared myself with my friends whose academic journeys were seemingly on track. My friends, who by the time I re-entered college, already had their bachelor’s degrees. I would look at my peers’ posts about graduating on social media. I felt as if I was behind.

It took me years to make peace with how my plans were altered. I constantly blamed myself for not being strong enough. But it’s not about strength. Mental illnesses can make performing basic tasks difficult. So imagine how difficult it makes performing more complicated tasks, like studying and completing assignments. It takes remarkable strength to go to university with a mental illness. 

There’s a common saying, “It doesn’t matter how you start; it’s how you finish.” I know that may sound cliché to some of you. But it’s true. I’ve been told this a million times by my family. However, it took awhile for me to internalise this message. 

One thing that helped me was reading the autobiographies of Michelle Obama, Trevor Noah and Barack Obama (which I am currently reading). I related to Michelle Obama in her need to always have a plan and not wanting to deviate from that plan. However, just like my life did not go according to my plan, hers did not either (albeit for very different reasons). Her coming to understand that it’s good to take the unbeaten track and venture off course helped me tremendously to come to terms with the way my life turned out. Mind you, I read this book a year ago, a few months before I graduated from university. Shortly after graduating from university, I read Trevor Noah’s ‘Born a Crime’ and Barack Obama’s ‘Dreams from My Father’. Unlike Michelle Obama, Trevor Noah and Barack Obama were not fixated on sticking to a predetermined path. Both of them came from adverse circumstances yet managed to be successful people in spite of their circumstances. Their experiences helped me to see the derailment of my plans in a new light. 

With this new insight, I began to see depression as the adverse circumstance in my life. Although I am still learning this, I find that it is important to make peace with where you are.  It does not define me and so it will not determine my future. It is true that mental illness does not define a person. Neither does your successes nor your failures- whether you have a college degree or don’t have one. Instead, you are defined by a myriad of things: the totality of your experiences, culture, values, beliefs and character, just to name a few. 

It’s okay if you have to put your plans on hold because of a mental illness. It’s okay if you graduate from university a few months or a few years later than you’d hoped. And it is okay if you don’t graduate from university. 

I hope this letter helps you to make peace with where you are in your journey. I hope it encourages you to keep trying to achieve your goals. Yes, it’s difficult to be a university student. But, it’s even more difficult to be a university student battling with a mental illness. 

I hope this letter gives you solace.

Hope this helps,

In My Head with Simon

Visit In My Head With Simon at https://inmyheadwithsimon.wordpress.com/

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You can find a listing of all of the series posts in the emerging blogger directory.

The emerging blogger series from Mental Health @ Home

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11 thoughts on “Emerging Blogger Series: In My Head With Simon”

  1. Glad to hear your story. I, too, experienced a delay in getting my undergrad degree. I also got a graduate degree that took a little longer too because of my bipolar condition. The way I look at things is that I am not achieving my goals on my timeline, I am achieving them on God’s timeline.

  2. Wow wow wow … what a great guest blog. This resonated with me but not because I’m a student (far too old now) but because it’s true that mental illness does not define you. It is however extremely difficult to see and believe that when you are in an episode of anxiety or depression. Anyone who has battled or is battling with depression, anxiety or another mental illness has a strength they should be proud of. It’s not something anyone wants to ever go through but it can bring positives into people’s lives. I loved this post. Claire

  3. Wow this really hit home. I find one of my major struggles is trying to accept where I am because it’s not where I hoped I would be. And I’ve no idea where I’m going. Thank you for sharing this.

    1. Thank you for reading! It is a struggle for me to accept too but I am working on it. I hope this letter helped you. I wish you luck in your journey.

  4. Another inspiring and enlightening post Ashley and thank you for sharing your story Simon. I’m sure it’s resonated with many of us. I love “Instead, you are defined by a myriad of things:…….”

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