Emerging Blogger Series, Mental Health

Emerging Blogger Series: Stronger Than What Hurt Me

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The emerging blogger series is aimed at community building by giving mental health bloggers who are early in their blogging evolution the opportunity to have their work seen by a wider audience.  It’s also a way to introduce readers to some newer members of our community.

This post is by Stronger Than What Hurt Me.

rape culture pyramid: from normalization to degradation to assault
Ranger Cervix & Jaime Chandra of 11th Principle: Consent! / CC BY-SA

Rape culture is fucked

I do not understand why rape culture is how it is. Why do we defend the rapist and blame the victims. Why do we say how wonderful they were in there past trying to protect WHAT they are now. That being said why do we point out the bad a victim did ever as if that’s what justifies them being raped. Not just women are victims of sexual abuse. But how often do men come forward. Would you? Women who are raped are disregarded saying they provoked it… Men who are raped? They secretly wanted it or what!!? “They wouldn’t have gotten hard”. What a god damn joke. I hate that people automatically assume you did something wrong, or didn’t do enough to stop it. I hate that as the victim you have to constantly defend yourself but your rapist only once or twice has to defend themselves before their life moves on. I now have PTSD to live with the rest of mine. My new love in my life knows what happened to me and is worried to scare me, or “trigger” me. Meanwhile he tells his new lovers and those women just accept it. Why? How can this possibly be the world we live in. I know there are many issues in this world. I just don’t understand how this is still such a big one amongst the rest.

You can find the author on her blog Stronger Than What Hurt Me.

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You can find a listing of all of the series posts in the community features directory.

The emerging blogger series from Mental Health @ Home

Do you want to be the next emerging blogger?


  • you have a personal (rather than business-oriented) blog that’s focused primarily on mental health/illness
  • you’re a new(ish) blogger, with WordPress following <100 preferred

Interested?  If you fit the criteria above:

  • email me at mentalhealthathome (at) gmail (dot) com
  • let me know the topic you’d like to write about and include your blog name/URL

9 thoughts on “Emerging Blogger Series: Stronger Than What Hurt Me”

  1. I think it is horrible. It’s good to talk about it, to bring it out of shadow and out of the shame. I think we do have a social responsibility here. Besides that I strongly believe that such crimes must be taken seriously by law, which doesn’t happen in every country. Not where I live at least.

  2. Discordant arousal, we think it’s called when the body’s biological response does not match our emotional response, such as when we are being raped. Yes, it feels like a betrayal. Oh, beautiful body that does what it evolved to do. Why are we so separate?

    1. It’s sad that a response that’s so automatic on the part of the body can end up being such a source of shame for people who’ve been victimized.

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