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What Is… Sex vs. Gender?

Gender-related terminology: sex, gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation

In this series, I dig a little deeper into the meaning of psychological terms.  This week’s term is sex vs. gender.

As we near the end of Pride Month, I’ve spruced up this older post about terminology related to sex and gender. When I initially published it early last year, it got a few really ignorant comments from people who aren’t followers of my blog. I’m curious if it will draw any of those kinds of comments this time around.


While the terms sex and gender are often used interchangeably, they actually have distinct meanings.  The distinction between the two was first proposed by a sexologist in the 1950s, and it’s now widely recognized, including by large organizations such as the World Health Organization.

Sex chromosomes

Sex is biologically based, and we are born as male or female based on our genes.  Two X chromosomes and you have a female, an X plus a Y chromosome you have a male.  As a side note, this means that the sex of the baby is based on whether the sperm that fertilized the ovum bore an X or a Y chromosome; the maternal contribution is always an X chromosome. 

There are a variety of sex chromosome disorders, including those with an extra X chromosome or an extra Y chromosome.  Some people with genetic variations in sex chromosomes are born as intersex, with sex characteristics that don’t neatly fit into the male or female norm.  In the past, the term hermaphrodite was used, but it’s no longer considered acceptable to refer to humans. Its use is limited to biology to describe organisms, such as earthworms and snails, that have both male and female sex organs. 

Intersex humans may have variations in internal and external anatomy as well as sex hormones.  Intersex characteristics may be visibly apparent, but in some cases they can only be identified through genetic testing.

Cultural gender norms

Gender doesn’t refer to biological characteristics; rather, it’s one’s internal identification in relation to social constructs of “male” or “female”.  The World Health Organization defines gender as “the socially constructed characteristics of women and men – such as norms, roles and relationships of and between groups of women and men. It varies from society to society and can be changed.”  While some may argue that these roles are inherently based in biology, power and control can have a significant impact on the role functions assigned to each gender. 

The WHO Europe states that: “The way power is distributed in most societies means that women have less access to and control over resources to protect their health, and are less likely to take part in decision-making.”  Our society is highly gendered, and it’s become so normalized that it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that these gender roles are social norms rather than some sort of objective reality.

Gender identities

Some people never have identified with the social gender norms associated with their birth sex.  A person who has always identified with the opposite sex’s gender roles may identify as transgender.  The term cis-gender describes people whose gender identity matches their biological sex.

While we tend to think of gender as being very binary, i.e. male and female, not everyone fits into those neat little categories.  Some people don’t identify with either the male or female box, and may use terms like gender-queer, gender-fluid, or non-binary to describe themselves.  Some cultures have distinct roles for non-binary individuals, sometimes described as a third gender. In Samoan society, faʻafafine are recognized as a third gender. The term two-spirited is used by some North American indigenous groups; while the term two-spirited is modern, the concept of a third gender within those cultural groups is not.

Being transgender or any other non-cis gender is an identity, not a mental illness. However, there is a related illness called gender dysphoria that relates to the distress resulting from being in the wrong body in a society that is highly gendered. That diagnosis isn’t universally accepted as valid, although it is in the DSM-5. A blogger I knew took her own life not all that long ago, and a major contributing factor in the lead-up to her death was the trauma of being frequently misgendered, as she was unable to “pass” as her identified gender.

Gender expression

Gender expression refers to external displays related to gender, and is not necessarily congruent with gender identity.  Someone may cross-dress, including as a performance persona (e.g. drag queens), without identifying as the gender they’re dressing as.

Transgender individuals’ gender expression choices may be influenced by the discrimination they expect they’re likely to face if their gender expression matches their true gender identity. If hormone therapy isn’t started early, it can become much harder to “pass” as one’s identified gender.

Sexuality

So, sex derives from biology, and gender derives from social constructs.  What about sexuality?  It sometimes gets loosely thrown into the mix with sex and gender, but it’s a distinct phenomenon.  Who a person wants to sleep with doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with their biology or the gender that they identify with.  The fact that someone is transgender has no bearing on whether their sexual preference is for men, women, both, or neither.


I must admit that I was fairly oblivious to much of this until I started working as a nurse.  At that point, I started having contact with a far more diverse range of people than I typically met in social situations. At the same time, though, exposure isn’t always enough.  I remember having a conversation with a fellow nurse who couldn’t see the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation.  She thought that trans people were just confused gay people, which is absurd.

The key thing, though, is not to assume that we get to decide others’ identities or the terms (including pronouns) that they get to use. Instead of assuming, ask. And even if someone doesn’t fit within your own conception of what gender is (or the Catholic church’s conception, for that matter) doesn’t mean it’s not valid.

Were you aware of some of this terminology related to sex and gender? 

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17 thoughts on “What Is… Sex vs. Gender?”

  1. Thank you. This is an education for me – happily received. I don’t have a lot of exposure to gender-related topics, but one of my daughter’s best friends is now identifying as a boy/young man. I try to be as supportive as possible of this friendship even though I was not raised at a time when gender concerns were part of the social conversation/social fabric. I admit to being very new to the discussion.

    1. I remember around the time that I graduated from high school one of the teachers came out as trans. My dad was a teacher at the same school, and I remember him basically making fun of this trans person. There was definitely a lot less awareness in the past.

  2. We are confused by the terms. You explained them clearly; it’s hard for us to remember them. People label us non-binary, gender fluid, or gender queer. We do not always feel as one or the other binary gender—or we sometimes feel like one and sometimes like the other binary gender, and we do experience conflict about it.

    Before COVID, we use to express in a mixed way that reflected both male and female. We do that less now. Feel constrained. Our plumbing is our birth sex and we are sexually attracted to the other sex’s plumbing. even when we feel like that same gender as Spouse. Does that even make sense?

    Due to sexual abuse, we dislike our plumbing and body much of the time. Still, we are not planning to change it at this time.

  3. I knew all this from some alt dating sites I used to be on. I don’t care what other adults do regarding their gender/sexuality (long as it’s legal and consensual). It’s when we talk about kids that I will probably disagree…

    1. I think parents can certainly do a lot to help kids be safe with their behaviours, but if they’re not prepared to accept who their child is in terms of gender identity or sexual orientation, that has the potential to do a lot of damage.

  4. Clear explanation Ashley and I never even thought about the word ‘gender’ as being one’s internal identification in relation to social constructs of “male” or “female”. I thought, probably like many that it was interchangeable with the word ‘sex’. Hmmm, you learn something new every day. Thank you.

    I’m also with you on explaining the above to children, using age-related language and information.

    1. I think there’s a lot of value in teaching kids that it’s who they are on the inside that counts, whether that be in terms of beauty or various aspects of identity.

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