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Feeling Disconnected from Blogging

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Over the last few weeks I’ve felt pretty disconnected from blogging.  I know a number of other bloggers have had thoughts at some point or another of just packing it in, and while I haven’t reached that point, I thought it was something worth exploring.

Personally, this last little while has been the least connected to blogging I’ve felt since I started 2 1/2 years ago.  It’s not something that had been slowly building; it was more a combination of multiple factors coming together all at the same time.

Part of it has been my own health.  I’ve been under the weather physically, and while that’s mostly cleared up now it’s had a spillover effect on my mental health.  My concentration has been complete crap, and while I’m still trying to read other people’s posts, I’m not absorbing much.  I think that’s contributing a lot to the sense of distance, especially since I’ve always gotten at least as much out of the reading side as the writing side of blogging.

Writing’s been hard too, though.  I have plenty of ideas in my little idea farm spreadsheet, but I just don’t really have anything to say.  It sort of feels like it’s not even worth the bother to try.  And when I do write, it’s hard to come up with much, and it takes forever.  I don’t know that it’s writer’s block so much as just disinterest.  I’ve still got a stash of posts written and scheduled, so there most likely won’t be any change in posting frequency.  

There’s a strange disconnect between what I’m feeling about the engagement on my blog and the reality.  The objective reality of what my stats tell me is that not much has changed.  But subjectively, my blog is feeling like a very barren place.  While it can be easy to get caught up in stats, this is rather the opposite.  The stats tell me everything is pretty much status quo.  The lack of life I feel in my blog is all a lack of colour inside my head.  I think essentially what I’m doing is projecting a sense of internal barrenness onto my blog.

In terms of factors outside of me and my blog, there’s the whole coronavirus pandemic.  I’m pretty indifferent about the virus itself, but it’s certainly making itself known in the blogosphere.  I’m not sure if I’m being influenced by others’ anxiety, which isn’t something I’m generally prone to, or if it’s more about the blogosphere feeling different than it usually does.

Overall I think the chances of me taking much of a step back from blogging are very low, but it helps to recognize what factors are contributing.  Even if there’s not all that much I can do about them, it helps to keep things in perspective.

Interestingly enough, I wrote this post earlier in the week (aside from this paragraph), and perhaps writing it out helped, or maybe I’m just feeling better overall, but things have started to get back to normal as the week has gone on.

So for anyone who is feeling disconnected from their blog and blogging, I would suggest reflecting on all the potential factors that could be contributing, writing it out, and then figuring out where to go from there.

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89 thoughts on “Feeling Disconnected from Blogging”

  1. I totally agree. Something had changed, energy has shifted. I just don’t have the motivation to write. Usually difficult times mentally for me are when I’m my most creative. At the moment, I go to write a blog and get a couple of sentences in before I think… Why bother? Unlike you, I was new in the blogaverse and so my stats have shown the impact. Lack of content = lack of visitors…. Hoping I can recover from this like you said you are doing. Glad to hear you are feeling better. Keep writing xx

  2. I am feeling fine about blogging, but I do tend to skim repetitive posts about the news or how people feel about what’s going on, etc. Those are depressing to me. I check the news myself a couple times a day & don’t want virus stuff here again.

  3. I appreciate your honesty. I agree the blogging atmosphere has definitely changed. Honestly it’s a tad depressing. There’s a lot of virus related posts going up daily and sometimes it feels like too much. I know last year I was rather uninspired by blogging, I just did it here and there, this year all I want to do is blog. It’s normal to have fluctuating feelings.

    1. I agree. It seems like there’s starting to be a bit more balance. I’ve been avoiding social media, though, to have a better control of what I’m being exposed to.

      1. I’ve been doing less with social media as well. I also don’t go looking for news. I did 1 blog post related to what’s going on, well a self care post. I have no problem doing one that Intersect with problems or feelings around the virus, but I wont do any specifically for the virus. If that makes sense.

  4. Oh my gosh I have been feeling this before I even saw your post! I realized I am trying to push myself too much and I’m breaking. I think my issue is that I need to pace myself.

  5. Sometimes just putting it all out on the table helps. Thank you for your authenticity 😉 Your blog is amazing, I personally love your little humor statements that are sprinkled throughout, they are little gold nuggets. You’ve got a killer sense of humor and a wonderful way with words. Life feels like a gray wet blanket right now. I’m going through the motions as best I can. I look forward to your posts as do so many others. At least I’m still alive to read them and not a ghost haunting you to keep posting haha!

    1. Yeah I’d much rather have you around in regular reader form than ghost haunting form. And it means you get to maintain a safe distance from the damn snot monster…

  6. I like your blog, so I hope you don’t stop writing. OTOH, as I’ve reflected on my own blog, the half-life of the average blog does not seem to be so great.

    I’m also grateful that you’re still reading my blog!

  7. I think it’s wise to take a step back and have a look at what is contributing to the change of sfere or not wanting to write. I was in the mindset of ‘what’s the point of mental health when all other health and economic is all that is written about’.
    But going through the motions, experiencing it and taking a step back, I’ve found some inspiration here and there. I still struggle and I think it is a symptom or even a warning how difficult it can be to get in touch with reality (or yourself) after such a pandemic. I see it as a very teachable and interesting moment but I’m not ready to deal with it (yet), so I take baby steps. I also have the feeling that my blog feels ’empty’ (not a fun feeling).

  8. I don’t trust WP’s stats at all. I get 3-4 likes on most posts and maybe 1 comment, but some days I’ll get 200 views out of nowhere. Yeah right. Probably a bot crawling for data. I’m not trying to be a downer, I don’t mind personally. I’m writing for me not to become a famous internet marketing wizard.

    Your blog is one of the few that really stands out in my feed so I do think you should keep going. The mental health blogging community on WP is huge so it’s difficult to really stick out from the crowd. You actually have information and points backing up your posts though which is far beyond what most people have, haha.

    I’ve obviously felt the same way you’re feeling now for some time. I don’t necessarily want to QUIT, but I want to burn everything down and start over. I still might. You’ll figure out the right thing to do. 🙂

  9. I find myself torn between talking about the porn thing, which after seven months of pushing my book I’m kind of burnt out on, talking about the pandemic, which I don’t have much really new to add, or just telling random stories. I really don’t want to do any of it, and when I look back to last year, this was around the time I really started slacking. Between May and September, I only did about 9 entries. Then I came back hard because I was refreshed. The only rules to blogging are the ones you have. You don’t have to give us something every day. You don’t have to follow a theme schedule. You shouldn’t feel like it’s work…especially if you’re not making any money. It’s your world and you owe us nothing.

    1. Luckily I’m not really a rules kind of person, either in the sense of imposing my own or trying to follow what I think others’ might be. It’s more a matter of figuring out what works for me.

  10. The virus thing that I don’t like naming certainly does not help and will change the atmosphere.
    I certainly avoided as long as I could by not saying the actual name. It wasn’t that I was burying my head in the sand. I just didn’t want to say the name if the virus at any point on my blog.
    But due to how life has changed and so the name ended up coming in it somewhere. But no way am I going to write a post on just that, or read on just that via blogs, as other readers have mentioned.
    We have the resources to get our official updates from and not some post that may be exaggerated, or depressing. Reading too much of the topic gets depressing, as I am sure others will agree.
    Finding different ways to occupy my time and share in weekend posts I thought would be a challenging one. But as my posts have shown, I seem to have ways to occupy my own time.

    I have felt I have blogged more than normal to start with, while on lockdown. But then due to personal circumstances, I felt I had to ajr and get that one off my chest. Something I wanted to write for months, but held off. But now, I feel my posts are going back to a pace I usually write.

    May you continue writing at your pace. I always look forward to your posts. X

  11. Regarding the virus, I don’t know if this will help anyone, but I am pretty sure that by doing all I can do every time I go out or have something delivered (i.e. disinfecting items), I have done my job. If i get it, I get it. Now, regarding not feeling the blogging, I get that. I have also had some moments this week as well (although I am a newer blogger), about quitting. I hope that you will continue to figure out these other things, as you’re already doing. Good job!

  12. “The lack of life I feel in my blog is all a lack of colour inside my head. I think essentially what I’m doing is projecting a sense of internal barrenness onto my blog.” – yes, this is what I was wondering as I read your blog. It sounds a bit like (maybe?) depression is doing what depression does and robbing you of the joy you usually find from blogging.

    I can relate to having your enthusiasm for blogging wax and wane. When I get really low I frequently feel ashamed and embarrassed about my writing. I think I’m on my 5th or 6th blog now because I keep deleting them when I feel depressed.

    For what it’s worth, I enjoy your writing and I’m also grateful for the kind and helpful comments you leave on my posts. I hope you continue to feel better, physically and mentally.

    My own approach to blogging is not to force it. I only write if I have sufficient enthusiasm. And, I’m a little hesitant to admit this… but I write mainly for myself… and that actually helps me. I don’t feel any obligation to my readers to publish at any particular consistency. I write mainly for myself and I simply hope that other people can take something useful from my writing. And therefore I don’t feel any pressure to blog if I don’t want to or if my creativity and enthusiasm have run dry.

    Sooner or later I always return to writing. I enjoy it and it’s therapeutic for me. And I believe it’s the same for you too. Take care 🙂 x

    1. Thanks! My approach since I first started blogging is to have posts written ahead of time and scheduled. I don’t think I’d be that likely to push myself to stick to a particular posting frequency anyway, but having things written ahead of time means it doesn’t even start to be an issue.

  13. Excellent advice. There has been a few times when I feel like just deleting everything, and I stopped for some of the reasons you’ve mentioned. I ran out of things to write about, and I didn’t want my blog to be a daily report of what I did all day. I’m slowly getting back to blogging. I know I’m relieved to hear that you aren’t ending your blog.

  14. Ashley, thanks for being open and honest. Sorry you have not been feeling so good.
    I’ve always enjoyed your blog.
    You are consistent, and you keep going, despite everything.

    I have deleted 4 blogs now. And this blog I now keep private, and I must say, I’m writing more than ever. I think it’s because I know nobody can see my posts. So I’m posting like 4 or 5 times a day. Just all my thoughts and feelings. I don’t even bother with a title…
    I think there is something to be said, about just writing whatever comes into your head at the time, and writing what you think people expect of you.

    Even if you did take a break, everyone would still be here.

      1. Yeah I don’t do audiences very well.
        I work better by myself, and even though people say, nobody judges you or it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks, and that may be true for many, but it does matter, and people would not set up a blog if they didn’t want to be heard in some way.
        People do care about how they come across to a certain degree.

  15. I had been experiencing that too, sometimes it’s necessary to take a step back. Your posts are great, so try not to be too hard on yourself. All the greats had their moments of struggle. (Some still do.) Thinking about you! Take care. ❤

  16. I think the whole world is out of sorts at the moment. And I’ve noticed the footfall here is much quieter than normal. People who would blog regularly have gone suspiciously quiet all of a sudden. I hope it gets back to normal soon.

  17. I am always so impressed by how fluent you are with expressing thoughts and feelings.
    So many struggle with that.
    I am certain that in many ways the situation that is affecting most people is discombobulating us in ways that can be hard to understand. I want to get back to playing with writing fiction, but work is giving me so much to think about, I am finding it hard to write stories.
    I know you said in your case there are other factors that may have affected you. I hope you can still continue writing. I am sure your articles are helpful to many people.

  18. There is a different feeling and I can’t put my finger on it. As you said Ashley, the figures add up and the feedback’s positive – but mine appears to be coming from new bloggers as opposed to our regular readers?

    I still enjoy the writing and reading other blogs despite the fact that a huge percentage are about the pandemic. And I think that’s getting me down.

    I’m glad you were able to write it all down, reflect and come to the end conclusion that you’re still going to carry on with your blog. Cos I for one would certainly miss you – I love the seriousness of some posts and your wicked sense of humour in others.

    1. That’s a good point about regular readers. I can’t really pinpoint who, but it does feel like some people have gone silent in our little world.

  19. I’m glad you’re feeling better now. This period is having almost everyone under the weather and feeling disinterest in things they like. You’re not alone.

  20. I’m glad you’re feeling better now! Writing things out generally seems to help me. And I’m sorry that your blog was feeling like a barren place — that sounds no-fun. 😔 The internet (and the world really) has felt really different to me, too, recently. It’s strange.

  21. I’ve pretty much been feeling the same way. I haven’t been many writing new blog posts lately, and even though I have still been promoting my blog, my stats seem to have taken a big hit, a lot lower than normal. So ready for Corona to be over. That seems to be what has me down.

  22. I can relate to every word you wrote. Even though I only read a good half of the post, sorry. I think you understand this part. We all need some compassion and encouragement at some point and I think these “head blocks” are one of the opportunities to get some.
    You managed to wrote quite a lot considering the state you’re in. It’s not something everybody can do, and something you can be really proud of.

  23. I find it difficult to write anyway, I’m better at commenting on others posts because they spark something in me. I’m finding it increasingly difficult to write a post right now and I think it’s because it always ends up coming back to the pandemic. I want to write about other things but then it feels wrong somehow.

    I’m glad things have improved. Your posts would be missed if you weren’t around. Xx

      1. It’s important you keep doing what you do so well though. I pointed someone in the direction of your blog because I thought they’d find some of the topics helpful. Her teenage daughter is struggling with depression and she doesn’t know how best to help her. I thought she might find some useful stuff on your blog. 😁 xxx

  24. Hey Ash, I’m in the same boat! I’m struggling and can’t seem to get myself to write. I don’t know what to even blog about with out repeating myself. <3 Thanks for sharing this.

    1. Hey lovely lady! Yeah, I’d noticed you haven’t been posting lately. It’s hard when it feels like things just aren’t flowing the way they should.

  25. I don’t specifically write about the virus, but equally l am not going to run away from it. It’s there, it’s part of our lives … whether we want it to be or not it is always in our minds somewhere. I try not to dwell on it .. l tend to not watch the news that often l check the daily death tolls for both the UK and the States. Suze perhaps watches the news more and l have to remind her to stop or she’ll drive herself batshit crazy with the depressiveness of it.

    I am probably more of an outsider to my reading of my fellow bloggers … although l prefer to use the term friends more of those l read on a more regular basis or try to anyway. So l tend to not see every post you write Ashley, but because of my distance and gaps inbetween reading your posts l have seen a change in your style ober the last five months.

    Statististically no, it’s not the change l have seen, it’s the words you use between your written lines that most people don’t tend to read – they are the words l see, so this ‘disconnect’ you talk of, l have seen from you.

    You are a fabuolous writer and blogger alike – l don’t blow pixie dust up people’s arses for the sake of making them feel better, nor do l endlessly like what they write because l can … l prefer truth be known the ‘realness’ of a person.

    I have always admired your realness, it is what l like about the Ashley l have come to know since l have been blogging here and the same Ashley l call my distant friend.

    I am sorry you are feeling slightly lower than normal .. but your level headedness is admirable, as indeed are you.

    You’ll do what your mental health needs you to do.

    Keep well Ashley 🙂

    Once more another provocative post and good reading. I perhaps don’t have to tell you that, this is a compliment 🙂

  26. I personally feel a lot less motivation to blog, and catch up with reading blogs (I feel stupid and slow and less able to absorb what I read too!), and that’s because I am facing a lack of motivation across pretty much all spheres of my life right now.

    Strange for me because I value online community greatly and love reading even if I don’t right. A general heavy “blah” feeling, for me.

    Hugs <3 I value you, whether or not you write.

  27. yes, I have been struggling to read my fav bloggers such as yours. I set aside time, but it vanishes. I dont get into my emails and I have 200 emails.. to read the blogs and catch up, if i miss it even more . I am trying not to beat myself up and create too much pressure.

    1. I think it’s natural that time allocation and priorities will have to adjust now and then. Perhaps the best we can do is try to get out of our own way and let those adjustments happen

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