Weekend Wrap-Up

Weekend wrap-up

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Here’s what happened in my life over the past week:

  • I released my book Managing the Depression Puzzle earlier this week.  A huge thank you to those who picked up a copy and everyone for all your supportive comments!
  • The depression-related psychomotor retardation is still really bad, so in another round of grasping at straws, I tried prednisone to try to get an idea of how much inflammation is contributing to the depression.  However, the prednisone made me feel quite unwell, so that was the end of that experiment.
  • I got out of the house a couple of times to go to the doctor and grocery shopping.  When I’m at home I don’t notice just how slow I am, but then I leave home and think huh, I didn’t realize it was still this bad.
  • It’s been a particularly low mood week.
  • I’ve bumped up my showering frequency to every 3 days, so that’s something.
  • Peanut, one of my guinea pig boys, likes to gnaw on the cage wires to express “feed me now.”  I’ve finally discovered something that makes him stop – rubbing olive oil on the cage bars.  I guess he doesn’t like the taste, which is good, because I worry about him chipping a tooth.
  • I’m sure there are some very good life coaches out there, but there are also the odd quacky ones.  This week I came across one answering a question about depression on Quora; she said that depression isn’t an emotion, it’s an action.  WTF?
  • Is it just me or has WordPress been quiet this week?  It feels like there’s been less activity in my WP Reader feed than usual.


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How has your week been?


49 thoughts on “Weekend wrap-up”

  1. Sorry to hear things are not quite well with you.

    Depression is an action? What is that person thinking? Pff.

    I am still finding my right ear is sensitive to sound, since a bit of turn up with my hearing aids. Majoritly, I am managing, with exception I was glad to get home after work in my evening job, because the chatting was just getting too noisy for me.

  2. Awwww, there you are with the guineas!! What a great photo!!

    Great job with your showering frequency! I’m still way behind you on that! I can’t force-shower myself more often than once a week or so!! 😮

    Eww, olive oil, the gift that keeps on giving! HA HA! Yeah, that’s pretty yucky if it’s not cooked into something! Great problem solving with that! Your guineas are very mischievous! Like, yesterday, I won a cake at the cake wheel! YAY. Unfortunately, it gave me a massive sugar headache. (Apparently, my body’s not accustomed to sugar anymore.) So I tried to drink some diluted apple cider vinegar. YUCKS! After one sip, that was that.

    Depression is an action?! That’s hilarious. My youth leader–dreadful woman–used to go around saying that about love. “Love isn’t a feeling. It’s an action verb.” Uh… I guess she meant that actions speak louder than words? Oh my gosh, I don’t think that translates to depression AT ALL.

    My week has been great! I won a cake and had a great time at the fish fry. The cake was a white sheet cake with pastel purple icing and pastel purple and pink Valentine’s candies around its perimeter. It was made and donated by a local seventh-grader. It was SO GOOD. But to stay on my diet, I ate a few pieces and then let my dad take the remainder to a friend of his. Back on the diet today!

        1. Agreed. Sustaining them is what I find quite difficult. Consistency in the self-care sense is not my forte. How do you go from, say, showering every 3 days, to consistent showering every other day (for instance)? I have a difficult time doing that.

  3. My personal hygiene is very important to my mental health. I shower, shave, and brush my teeth every day. Makes me feel like a new man and ready for the day. Essential to my well being. Clean clothes every day, too. Right now, I’m in a coffee shop and have not showered yet. Don’t feel right, feel dirty, not ready to meet people, and enjoy the day. Will get in shower when I get home. Have A.A. meeting tonight and need to clean up.

  4. Congratulations once more about your book! 🙂 I’ve almost finished it by now and I like your holistic approach in it a lot. 🙂
    Sorry to hear about Prednisone not working and even making you worse, and the psychomotor retardation being so bad.
    I hope your mood improves soon at least a bit.
    Depression is an action… huh? Love – yeah, I agree completely – but depression is quite a different kettle of fish. well, it’s very interesting but I can’t quite get it, I’d rather say it’s anything but action for many people. 😀 But then I wouldn’t say it’s an emotion either, at least for me depression is certainly not a single emotion. As I said I can’t quite follow what she meant but it’s sad that she’s a coach because I can see people could interpret it in a lot of different ways that would be harmful to them and for example make a conclusion that depression is their choice. Definitely not something you would like to hear from your coach.

  5. Congratulations on the book and I’m sorry you had a bad week.

    I think depression is more a lack of action for most people. There isn’t any training or regulatory body for life coaches, as far as I’m aware, which means anyone can call themselves a “life coach” and say what they want so long as the don’t break the law.

    Nice guinea pig photo. On Sunday I was at my second-cousin’s house and discovered he had guinea pigs, but I was too shy to ask to play with them. I watched them for a bit, but I only discovered them after I was exhausted from playing with the children.

  6. Not having personal experience with clinical depression, I want to comment on something you’e mentioned a couple times that may seem auxiliary.

    I get that not wanting to frequent the shower is symptomatic of depression, in the same sense as not getting out of the house so much, and other things where more effort is required of the clinically depressed individual than would be required of a non-depressed person under the same life-circumstances.

    But an auxiliary notion that may be of some comfort is that I think we totally overvalue the experience of the daily shower in our society. I lived in Europe for three years where the idea of taking daily showers was in the same ballpark as shaving legs or underarms. It was regarded as unnatural and therefore entirely unnecessary.

    Because I lived in a social context in the United States where it was difficult to find ways to shower regularly that weren’t somehow demeaning or fraught with danger, I find myself valuing the experience of a shower a lot more if I don’t make a regular ritual out of it. One or twice a week I shower, maybe more in the summer, less in the Winter.

    I’d like to read your new book but am slowly getting through the other one, I’m a very slow reader and am only in the chapter on the anxiety disorders, after the introductory stuff. You write with a unique clarity. I would think this would justify staying indoors more — idk, just a thought or two.

    1. Thank you!

      I agree with you that daily showers are overvalued. I’ve been doing mostly every other day for years, and usually if I deviate from that it’s because depression is getting in the way.

  7. Aww I love that photo! It’s rare we see a face (not covered in fur) so this is awesome! 😉A huge congrats on the book, but also on leaving the house and on upping the shower frequency. Even though it’s still bad and you’re feeling so slow and shitty awful, don’t underestimate your efforts. Really hoping this week is kinder to you  ♥
    Caz xx

  8. Life coaches and some opinions, there is no beginning that argument because it will never end. Depression is a action …. I wonder what action that would be…
    Showers every three days! That’s very good, I’m at 2 per week, mostly because I need to see the doctor or the therapist.
    About WP, I was thinking the same thing. It seems to me that there are fewer posts and therefore less engagement? I have no idea what that’s about.
    We had a week full of suspense because of the Corona virus that has arrived. At this point it seems that everything is very normal. I’m just wondering all the time if I should go to do some groceries just in case of …
    Further we finished the painting of the kitchen and the bedroom and we’re having a break from it.
    In terms of energy it’s still with ups and downs, for my mood it is the same but my mouth guard has arrived and I sleep way better with it!

    1. Great progress with the painting!

      I’m pretty indifferent to the Corona virus. If it kills me it kills me, and I doubt stocking up on toilet paper isn’t going to make a difference.

      1. I love your realism! 😂
        I was more worried about the stock of coffee when they put me in quarantine. At least I could blog all day long without having to go out of my way to catch up with all my obligations 😁😁
        I think other people will start to hoard, last week some shelfs looked pretty empty already.

        1. I’m more of a tea drinker than a coffee drinker, but I think given the choice between maintaining a supply of tea or toilet paper, I’d absolutely pick tea.

  9. Congrats on the book! Also I’m glad olive oil stopped Peanut from gnawing the bars.

    I’ve been away, for sure. Scheduled posts went up for when I’m away. Not sure why I’m back to 16 hours of sleeping each day. It’s not restful sleep, but nightmares. But I’m glad I can nap.

    Showering… I average once every 3 days currently too! Gotta work on brushing my teeth every night, that’s slipped.

    1. Thanks!

      I hope this nightmare phase doesn’t last too long. And teeth-brushing, that’s something I should work on too if I could only make myself care…

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