It’s week 22 of the working on us mental health prompt series over at Beckie’s Mental Mess. You can visit her post to find out all the details.
This week’s topic is rejection.
- Have you ever been rejected by family/friends because of your mental illness/disorder? Luckily, no. There have certainly been occasions where people didn’t know how to handle my illness, but it was never a cause for rejection.
- Has anyone mistreated you to the point you felt like you were nothing? No, but probably the closest was when I experienced workplace bullying because of the tremendous power differential. It was also challenging to see how many people who weren’t directly involved weren’t willing to have anything to do with me.
- Have you ever confronted the person/persons that have made you feel this way? Yes, but it didn’t accomplish anything.
- If the answer to #3 is “Yes”, was anything resolved?
- Has rejection changed you in any way? ie… Self-Esteem, Depression, and/or changed your opinion the way you feel towards the human race as a whole? I think the level of impact has a lot to do with whether or not it’s a rejection of your worth as a human being. With the workplace bullying, the bullies who were in positions of power over me were people that I didn’t like and already had zero respect for, so I didn’t feel rejected by them. Where I did feel a sense of rejection was the uninvolved people who wouldn’t go near me afterwards, but that was more a sense of betrayal rather than simply rejection. Regardless, that did affect my worldview, and made me far less trusting.
- Or, has rejection done the opposite and made your stronger and more resilient? I’m not sure that it’s made me stronger, but I think rejection can be something that gets a little easier with practice when it’s something like having an article you submitted to a publication get rejected. On the other hand, though, if the rejection is of your worth as a human being, there’s likely to be a cumulative negative effect.