So you know (S.Y.K.)

So you know

It’s time for So you know (S.Y.K.) over at Revenge of Eve.

The guidelines:

  • There are no right or wrong answers… Your answers = Your opinion = Your life
  • Answer a few or one, whatever you are comfortable with
  • Pingback to any S.Y.K. post
  • Use the hashtag #SYK to tag your post
  • Be real. If you feel a certain type of way, say it. You were asked your opinion (double dog dare)

This week’s questions:

  • Do you take responsibilty for other peoples problems and/or emotions, unknowingly? If so, move on to question 2, if not…head on to #3.
  • When did you noticed this behavior was burdening you and stunting your growth? Was it a particular incident or did someone verbally tell you that it isn’t your responsibility?
  • Were you raised by giving parents or by parents who gave only to throw it in your face later?
  • Lastly, what are your opinions concerning parents being held responsible for their children’s action? As in – what age is the child when they are held responsible for their own actions? Is this opinion reflective of how your parents raised you or opposite?

My answers:

  • Do you take responsibilty for other peoples problems and/or emotions, unknowingly? If so, move on to question 2, if not…head on to #3.  For the most part this isn’t an issue for me.  It probably started early on, but it really solidified when I became a nurse.  I’ve had lots of practice having empathy but also keeping a clear separation, and I think that makes it easier in my personal life as well.

 

  • Were you raised by giving parents or by parents who gave only to throw it in your face later?  My parents were very giving, although I wouldn’t say we were spoiled.  Whatever their faults might be, they never did the throwing it in your face routine.

 

  • Lastly, what are your opinions concerning parents being held responsible for their children’s action? As in – what age is the child when they are held responsible for their own actions? Is this opinion reflective of how your parents raised you or opposite?  It’s hard for me to give a specific age, because I’m not a parent myself so I haven’t got a firm grasp on what’s developmentally appropriate for what specific age.  I would say that kids begin to have some responsibility for their own actions in the elementary years, but the influence of parents’ action on children’s behaviour patterns remains significant for a long time.  I say behaviour patterns because parents can’t control every single behavioural incident, but if similar incidents are occurring over and over that’s likely a reflection of parenting.   My parents were pretty supportive of independence, so that’s something I value not just for myself but would value in children as well.

 

Feel free to join in with your own answers!

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