Weekend wrap-up

Weekend wrap-up

wrapping paper, ribbon, and twine

Here’s what happened in my life over the past week:

  • On a post about suicide I did earlier this week, someone left a comment that suicide is the epitome and selfishness and cowardice.  Initially I was gobsmacked, but then I realized that I don’t want that kind of crap on my blog and there’s no reason why I should put up with it.  Person blocked, end of story.
  • November is now done and I did not work a single day in it.  Both of my jobs I work casual, and there just hasn’t been much available this month.  Going this long without working makes me feel less able to work.  But I guess it is what it is.
  • I submitted a piece to an online publication that pays well.  There’s about a 0% chance it will be accepted, and that’s totally ok; for me the victory was having the ladyballs to press the send button on the email.
  • This week I decided to diversify a bit on the Vocal Media platform, and published posts on Psyche (about disclosing mental illness), Petlife (about the therapeutic value of pets), and Humans (about introversion).
  • Normally I think things through for a while before making a decision, but I spontaneously decided to upgrade to the WordPress Personal plan because I wanted my own domain.  it’s probably not going to actually change much of anything, but it’s still kinda cool.  GoDaddy is sitting on the .com version of my site name, so went with mentalhealthathome.org.
  • I’ve been feeling kind of achy all over for no apparent reason.  Maybe I’m just getting old?
  • Despite getting old (😉) I’m venturing further into the digital world and had my first Skype session, to talk blogging ideas with the lovely Candace from A Chick Click.


How has your week been?


18 thoughts on “Weekend wrap-up”

  1. People don’t understand and don’t even want to try to understand because heaven forbid they are wrong about something…

    Doing my own blog is very new for me however I have a decent following on Twitter. Most of my followers are agriculture related as that’s my main background. I tweeted my first blog post and got some amazing feedback but of course there’s always that one guy. “I get tired of hearing about all the weak minds and spirits… Pretty gloomy… Maybe you failed someone in your life… Maybe it’s all your wonderful technology and great drugs that keep you from seeing the forest for the trees. That’s it.” I politely called him out on this and wasn’t rude at all however he continued being rude and then blocked me. It probably didn’t help that other people were standing up for my position and weren’t being quite as “nice” as me. After blocking he continued on so I finally decided to block him and ignore him because I don’t need that negativity in my life. I want to spend my time trying to help make other people’s lives better not worry about someone just doesn’t want to step back and look at things more rationally.

  2. Good on you for all your writing!

    I hate it when people double down on their arguments after being told no. The “suicide is selfish” thing is something I’ve thought a lot about, and I came to the conclusion that yes it actually is, but not in the way the person that said it probably means. One of the things that I’ve found when I’m severely depressed and actively suicidal is that it’s like being trapped in a little bubble and everything outside me starts to lose reality. By the time I get to the point of acting on the suicidal thoughts, other people and events have about the same degree of reality as a tv show, and the idea of leaving those people behind is mentally and emotionally no different from getting to the end of a movie or tv show and leaving behind a cast that you feel a sense of connection to. It’s sad, but you know that it won’t affect them at all because those characters don’t *really* exist. The only real person is me, and therefore, the only person my suicide will affect is me (my “self”). So yes, in that sense it is selfish. But is that mental state something you can change by voluntary effort? I would say no – by the time things get that bad, I don’t think you can shift that mindset without external help, or at least someone to keep you safe until it passes. There’s a technical term for what I’ve described: suicidal trance. Discussed more in this article: https://allianceofhope.org/richard-heckler-on-the-suicidal-trance/)

    I think there would be people whose attitude to suicide might change to a more compassionate one after that sort of explanation, but for some the concept of suicidal trance might be just too far from their own experience for them to be able to empathise, while others might be so focused on their own needs and feelings in relation to the threat of losing someone close to them that they’re not able to see things from the suicidal person’s point of view. And then there’s the jerks that just have to be right, no matter what.

    1. Interesting article. It sounds kind of like something I read recently about cognitive deconstruction, or a narrowing of focus leading up to suicide. Out of curiosity, I looked up the Oxford Dictionary definition of selfish, and it’s: “lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure”. The second half of that really stands out for me, since it really doesn’t apply to suicide.

  3. That’s great you have submitted your writings to other platforms. You are a talented writer and I wouldn’t say you landing the other is too far fetched. Connecting with you via Skype was the highlight of my week. And about the comment, what you did was admirable as I am learning to entertain the ignorant less and less.

  4. “Selfishness and cowardice”? Them’s fighting words. I suppose that person has never been suicidal, or he/she would know how terrifying it is–feeling afraid of yourself and trying to escape harm at your own hands. It’s an awful feeling.

    Congrats on your new web site domain!! YAY!! That’s exciting!! And great job with your ladyballs!! I’d say there’s more than a 0% chance!!

    I’ve been feeling achy too. Weather? Arthritis? It could be a response to seasonal changes, maybe. I told my friend Teri that my foot ached, and she predicted light rain. She was right. But, you know, she may have just been following the weather forecast. I have no clue.

  5. Yikes, someone was ignorant enough to write that about suicide? I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion but still… Nicely handled!
    Hahah ‘ladyballs’, I like that! You should be proud for submitting that (what’s the publication, or is that something you’d rather not tell us?)
    Sounds like a positive month, especially where blogging and digital-ness and such are concerned!

    1. Yeah, there have been some good things. The publication is Longreads. I hadn’t heard of it until recently, but apparently they’ve got money to throw around because they pay writers very well.

  6. I also would have blocked that person and delete the comment. Bloggins has to be a safe and loving space ❤️ I’m happy for all the things you do. You are an amazing writer. Keep going 👍

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