Book Review: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

In Daring Greatly, Brené Brown borrows the words of Theodore Roosevelt to encourage us to find the courage to be vulnerable. Vulnerability, which she says encompasses uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure, “sounds like truth and feels like courage.” The book takes a very common sense, practical approach. Brown incorporates findings from her extensive research, but that doesn’t make the book feel textbookish at all.

The author challenges several myths about vulnerability, including the idea that it is a weakness. She points out that daring greatly requires challenging shame and the gremlins it fills our heads with. She has come up with term “gremlin ninja warrior training” to describe how to build shame resilience; this includes recognizing shame, talking about how you feel, and reaching out for help.

Brown identifies various strategies (e.g. perfectionism and numbing) that we use to shield ourselves from vulnerability, and ways that we can break down those shields that are holding us back. She believes that disengagement underlies many social problems, and this arises from the gap between the values we practice and the values to which we aspire. She offers “minding the gap” as a daring greatly strategy to combat this.

The section on rehumanizing education and work resonated particularly strongly with me, as I have experienced workplace bullying. A culture of shame in the workplace may appear in behaviours such as blaming, gossiping, favouritism, name-calling, and harassment. It can be even more overt when shame is used as a management tool through the use of “bullying, criticism in front of colleagues, public reprimands, or reward systems that intentionally belittle people.” This kind of shaming “crushes our tolerance for vulnerability, thereby killing engagement, innovation, creativity, productivity, and trust.”

One chapter is focused on parenting, which is a key predictor of children’s susceptibility to shame. Brown argues that children need to experience compassion, connection, worthiness, and belonging, not fear, blame, shame, and judgment. None of the recommendations she makes are new and earth-shattering, but they are all powerful and remind us to be aware of the messages we are conveying and behaviours we are modelling.

Society often tells us that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness. This book does an excellent job of challenging that and demonstrating how courageous and powerful being vulnerable really is. Mental illness in particular tends to make us fearful of vulnerability, and this book offers some excellent food for thought.

Daring Greatly is available on Amazon (affiliate link).

You can find Brené Brown’s TED Talks here.

You can find my other reviews on the MH@H book review index or on Goodreads.

I’ve also reviewed Brené Brown’s books Braving the Wilderness and The Gifts of Imperfection.

11 thoughts on “Book Review: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown”

  1. I made to read this on my not-FMLA break from my abusive boss. All those tactics are definitely at play in my office, including my boss randomly ccing other current favorite coworkers on emails to witness the belittling and screaming emails and forcing replies that start with “Dont tell me this is a two-way street. You are the problem, so write back your plan to fix your communication.”

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