Content warning: serious potty mouth alert
There was recently a this or that tag making the rounds, and one of the questions was whether you’d choose honesty or another’s feelings. I was actually a bit surprised by how many people chose honesty, and it got me wondering – is honesty overrated? If I was going around being completely honest about what I thought, what kinds of things would I let loose with? Well, it wouldn’t be pretty. Here’s an assortment.
- L: I know you like to diagnose yourself with a wide variety of mental illnesses to get people to jump on board your pity party bus, but what you really are is drama queen. You are not the centre of the world, and it’s time to get over yourself.
- B: You pretend you’re so confident, but you’re just hiding a fragile ego. I see through your bullshit. And I hope you (and your fragile ego) get syphilis.
- C: You say a patient threatened to hit you because I wasn’t strict enough? You’re a dumb rude bitch, and I hope next time the patient smacks your ugly face. And yeah, by the way, you’re as ugly on the outside as you are on the inside.
- Z: You are an embarrassment to our profession you sociopathic bitch.
- D: Stop telling me everyone goes through this. It’s an illness, not a fucking walk in the park.
- To various assorted people:
- You are dumb as fuck.
- You need to get the fuck away from me.
- You need to shut the fuck up.
- Take your bullshit somewhere else.
- No, I’m not depressed about something.
- Whatever bullshit suggestion you’ve got to fix my depression, shove it up your ass. Please.
- Stop being nosy. I don’t want to answer your bullshit questions.
- Just because you think I look ok doesn’t mean I actually am, dumbass.
This is not to say that I’m always bubbling over with anger, and I know forgiveness and compassion are important things to keep working on. Most of the time, I’m not a particularly judgmental person. But if I were to be fully honest with everyone, this is the stuff that might come flying out. I know I need to keep the potty mouth on lockdown in certain settings. And probably best I don’t start practicing radical honesty anytime soon. Perhaps Roseanne Barr could’ve used a reminder about that recently. Mean/judgmental is usually best left with inside the head voice.
Where do you stand on honesty (of the more radical kind) vs another’s feelings? Do you think honesty is overrated?
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