Weekend wrap-up

Weekend wrap-up

wrapping paper, ribbon, and twine

Here’s what happened in my life over the past week:

  • My guinea pig Oreo had been having diarrhea.  It stopped, but then it started again, although otherwise she seems ok;  Definitely having some guilt about being a bad furbaby mom and not doing tiring tasks like a full cage clean more often.
  • I had dinner with my brother.  I feel uncomfortable around him.  He’s always been very supportive, but I feel like I have nothing to say to him, and I don’t really feel like sharing details of my depressed life.  So there’s a lot of awkward silence.  I know that he and my parents talk to each other about me; it’s not malicious, but it adds to the discomfort I feel.
  • I’ve been visiting my grandma out of town for the later half of the week.  She’s 101, and she’s doing remarkably well but has had some significant cognitive decline in the last couple of years.  She was always chatty, but now she’ll tell the same stories and ask the same questions over and over because she’s forgotten what she just said a minute ago.  It’s a lot more talking than I’m used to, and I feel guilty that sometimes I get annoyed and just want her to stop talking.  I also get frustrated because she has health issues that aren’t being addressed.  My uncle is a bit clueless about that kind of thing, and my mom lives 5 minutes away but just can’t be bothered, so I feel like to get anything accomplished I need to do the 4-hour drive to come to take her to her next appointment with her GP next month.  And who knows if her GP would even pay attention to me anyway.
  • I did another couple of writing sessions on my trauma account this week, and I realized that the common thread underlying the friendships that I’ve jettisoned over the last couple of years is that they all minimized the bullying I had experienced and the lasting effects of it.  While their motives were probably well-meaning, coming on top of the tremendous invalidation associated with bullying it was more than I can take.  I supposed I knew that to some extent before, but it helps me understand why I haven’t wanted to let any of those friends back into my life, and also why I’ve been unwilling to share with my family any details of what happened.
  • I’ve been feeling more hopeless and have had flashes of passive suicidal thinking.  Not an active wish to die, but more a feeling of what the hell is the point.
  • I skipped my regular massage this week because of my visit to Grandma’s.  I did make it to one yoga class.
  • I think I should start scheduling time in for the books I’ve got on the go, because it’s so easy to get glued to my laptop and not fit in book time.
  • I also need to do some more writing, but I’m not feeling particularly inspired at the moment.

How has your week been?



17 thoughts on “Weekend wrap-up”

  1. I can relate to feelings of being somewhat uncomfortable around your brother, I certainly am when faced with my sister. We basically loathe one another. She doesn’t understand anything mental health, so decided to rid me. God Bless your grandmother for being 101. Me personally, I would never want to live that long. I have enough problems living now and I’m only 51. I know, I’m pathetic. I’m happy that you find solace in your writing though, that is always my comfort go to, too. 🙂

    1. I also have no desire to live to be that old, but given my genes I think the chance of me spontaneously dropping dead any time before 90 is pretty low….

  2. I love how raw and honest your weekend wrap-up posts always are. I can relate to your brother situation, I experience the same thing with my sister. Catching up is so forced and it’s more a tick of the list sort of thing rather than a genuine chat.

  3. I have the same awkward relationship with my brother. He and I like each other, but we have nothing to talk about, more often than not. It was the same way with me and one of my two late grandmothers. I wish you weren’t toying with suicide!! You’re not putting too much pressure on yourself with all this goal-setting, are you? Don’t forget to just be happy!! Your life seems quite successful from here already!!

      1. Four hours on the road would leave me completely depleted!! More power to you for having any energy left at all!! I’m sending you astral blessings for a great week!! 🙂

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